williesarus Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 (edited) Hey guys. I just broke up with my ex. and it's really hard for me to move on. everything that i do reminds me of him.. we're both guys.... and. he broke up with me because he said that his feelings faded and his heart is now locked up. he is sick and tired of relationship jus want to be single. i did asked if he still have any feelings for me. he said he don't know and doesnt want to think about it. he wanted me to accept his apology and promise that we will be really good friends. he said that he will only hang out solo with me when i've settled down. he is really a very very nice guy and now i feel absolutely empty without him, his texts, his calls. he would spam my phone whenever i'm angry with him. i did beg him to stay with me but he started to scold me really badly. so when i went home he drop me a text telling me that he wants me to face the fact and doesnt want to see me like this. now i really wanna get him back. i'm doing the No contact thingy right now. the last time i sent him a text was probably yesterday noon. till now he didn't even bother to text me. my last messages was, i told him i will be waiting for him to be back and till his heart is ready and stuff. he replied me that there might still be chances in future but not for the moment. he asked me to stop asking because it's annoying. but we had a group outing with our friends tomorrow and i really wish to see him. so.. should i go? i only do the NC thingy for like 1 day.... is it enough? i really want him back so badly. guys what do you think are my chances? Edited September 7, 2011 by williesarus
Buttercup84 Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Hi Hun I'm so sorry you are hurting . My ex broke up with me as he said his feelings faded . I know you want him back but to be honest , I don't think he wants to . If someone loves you , they do not end things . Pllease keep up the nc . If he says he wants to be single then he wants to do just that . Or even be with someone else . I'm sorry xx
Author williesarus Posted September 7, 2011 Author Posted September 7, 2011 (edited) Hi Hun I'm so sorry you are hurting . My ex broke up with me as he said his feelings faded . I know you want him back but to be honest , I don't think he wants to . If someone loves you , they do not end things . Pllease keep up the nc . If he says he wants to be single then he wants to do just that . Or even be with someone else . I'm sorry xx But you know he still keep our pictures inside his wallet and also the stuff that i bought him is still on his wall. i asked him why don't he remove it he said because all these are great memories. you see.. i still feel that theres hope. he also told me that his heart is locked up. it will take him a very long time to be with someone else again. thats what he said. his previous relationship before me was 2 years ago, he said he locked up his heart and slowly open up and he met me. now i just wanna be friends with him. then slowly i will make my move and win him back. is it okay? :/ Edited September 7, 2011 by williesarus
gbadboy Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Hey dude, Im gay also, so I feel your pain. You should read my post on the board and my story and you won't feel so bad. I am in the same situation where my ex and I share the same circle of friends. One particular friend of mine is really close with my ex, in fact my ex is staying at his place. The problem I face is what to do when the group of friends have social outings - believe me, I've done them and its painful to see my ex , no matter how cordial you are. My ex and I finally had a great conversation last week, but he told me he is unable to be my friend right now because it hurts too much. The thing is, im the one trying to get back with him but he's afraid to as he's afraid ill hurt him again, so he is keeping away and not considering even friends at this point. My advice to you is - cut your ex off completely IF you want him back. Allow him to MISS you, allow him to miss you being around. Sure he won't miss you in a few weeks, but as months progress he will reach a low point. Something of you will remind him when he's at the low point and he will wonder where you are, what you're doing etc. Do you honestly think if you cut him off that you'll never hear from him again? I disagree. I thought i could be my ex's friend but i love him - straight up, and being is friend will torture me more - seeing him party it up will torture me more then cutting him off. Being friends with your ex who you love serves your short term needs only...its a quick fix. But cutting off your lover serves your long term interests. He'll never miss you if you are always around, always there and he knows he can always get you. But if you remove yourself completely he will wonder in a few months and one unexpected day you'll hear from him. Check out the below article... http://www.get-back-with-your-ex.com/why-your-ex-wants-to-be-friends.php
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