dlb311 Posted May 7, 2004 Share Posted May 7, 2004 I am so CONFUSED! So I met this guy about six months ago. We have talked the whole time but didn't spend to much time together. The past month we have spend alot of time together. We see each other twice a week at least. We went on a mini vaction together had a blast. He told me that he really liked me and that he was thinking about taking it to the next level. I wasn't sure because I knew he was really hurt by an ex girlfriend they broke up over a year ago and though she is out of his life...he has issues with woman and trusting them now. This week I went to see him and we started to talk he said that he has so much respect for me and he really likes me he has a place for me in his heart. Sometimes he wakes up in the morning and wants to call me and see how I am doing? But is afriad so he will text message me instead. He says he thinking about come out to see me just to hug me but he is emotional scared. He said he has never met a girl like me and he can see how I can make him very happy and warm. But he isn't sure if he wants to take the chance. I said I can walk out this door and never look back if that is that way it should be. He said no it would hurt him more then me. Which may or may not be true. At first I just wanted to have a good time and now that I spend more time with him and talk to him all day along I am really liking him and it sucks and he is always bring it up and so I told him today I feel like you give and then take it back and I feel unwanted I just wanted to let things happen but now I can't stop thinking about getting hurt. He said he just needed to tell me because he didn't want to look like a Dick later. Should I walk away from this guy or try to see if it works. We like each other and we have so much fun together...? I am so confused and hurt and fustrated...I know girls can hurt guys but it goes both ways I got out of a relationship a little over a month ago and I was with him for 2 and half years. I am completely over it because of how things ended but see because when I met this guy my ex and I had been broken up for 4 months then this guy stopped asking me out and my ex came back so he and I were just friends and I was back with the ex...for three months then the ex got all weird again and I couldn't handle it so I said you have to want this or I have to walk and he said he wasn't sure so I left and never looked back and a week after we broke up this guy asked me out and we have been dating ever since. Please Advice don't know what to do Link to post Share on other sites
befuddled11 Posted May 7, 2004 Share Posted May 7, 2004 You've been seeing each other/hanging out for 6 MONTHS now.....and it's been a definitely significant amount of time since he broke up with his ex....yet he's still all scared and sucky about things? Yuck. We've all be hurt before. We've all had someone in our past who broke our heart. That's a part of life. You feel the hurt, you deal with it, you give it some time, and then you get your sh*t together and move on with life. If he's sincerely so gunshy and has all these trust/commitment/fears of getting hurt again "ISSUES", after the length of time you've spent together.....then I say forget him. He could also be handing you all of this as nothing more than a pile of BS because while he enjoys your company, he doesn't want to be tied down to you....because he's busy with someone else or doesn't want to be with "just one girl."...but instead of being truthful, he's handing you this crap about being all afraid of getting hurt (waaaaa). 6 months is enough time for him to realize the kind of person you are, and get his proverbial ducks in a row. If he's still acting like a spineless wimp who has this much emotional baggage, cut your losses now because life is short and he doesn't sound like relationship material. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dlb311 Posted May 7, 2004 Author Share Posted May 7, 2004 Thanks... Ii don't think he is give me this as BS. Though its possible. I really have gotten to know him and he has alot of baggage which is sad for him. I see something more in him then he lets me know that is why I have held on. But this whole thing is he says I am this great girl and he doesn't want to lose what we have or can have or want together but yet he isn't treating me as well as it sounds I should be. I think he is a cry baby too. But I try to sympthize with me because I am just that kind of person. He is very different deffinitly never met anyone like him. But again..I don't want to put my heart on the line for someone who is to scared to take care of it the right way. Thanks for the advice it has helped. anymore advice Link to post Share on other sites
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