sayitasitis Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 Is it going to be weird dating a guy more than 1 foot taller than you? Guys, how would you feel to dating a girl that much shorter? Girls, would you even try? Should I say no to the date? He asked but on retrospect, I think he was a bit apprehensive by the height difference at first but I didn't catch it at that time.
oaks Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 Guys, how would you feel to dating a girl that much shorter? Depends if she likes to wear heels a lot, but for me "too short" is a deal breaker and generally I would say that more than 1 foot shorter was too short.
country_gurl Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 Have your date in bed. You won't notice the significant height difference if you're both lying down. LOL Joke! :-) If he was a foot SHORTER than you, then I'd say that's a problem but for him to be taller....I don't think you should just cancel. Meet him, see how you feel. You might seriously be so attracted to him that you don't even notice, truly!
Cypress25 Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 I worry about this. The tallest guy I've dated was 5'10" and that's as tall as I'm willing to go. But I'm worried that one day I'll meet a taller guy and if we both like each other, it would be stupid to say no, but the height difference would make it really awkward. I'm only 5'1" and I often wear heels, but I'm obviously more comfortable in flats.
Cracker Jack Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 Don't say no to the date because of the difference in height. Just go and have fun. You might end up really liking the guy. Give him a chance.
JohnM Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Think Im about a foot taller than my girlfriend. It works just fine. Perfect for hugs too.
OliveOyl Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 You never know. I have a friend who is around 5'0" who dated a guy who was around 6'7" for a while. They dated for a few months.
somedude81 Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 I don't see why you'd want to. It just looks really goofy seeing a couple where one person towers over the other.
Cypress25 Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Now, now, somedude. Don't make this personal. Sometimes when two people really like each other, they're willing to forgive a physical flaw or two. The OP might go out with the guy and realize that the height difference is no big deal. Or she might go out with him and decide it's just too weird. But I think she should at least give it a try.
somedude81 Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 I'm currently taking a social dance class at my school. Whenever I have to dance with a girl who is much shorter or several inches taller than me, things are just weird. It just doesn't work as well with girls who are my height. There was one girl who must have been four something and whenever I tried to do a certain move with my hand on her back, my arm kept brushing her breasts while she turned. I also had to bend low for certain moves. Things are just awkward when the girl is taller as well. And you just can't look into each others eyes. Frankly, I just don't see why somebody would want to be with somebody much taller or shorter than them.
OliveOyl Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Frankly, I just don't see why somebody would want to be with somebody much taller or shorter than them. Maybe they like the person? Have fun together? Are attracted despite the height difference? I imagine if you get to know someone organically, like through work, or friends, the people you meet aren't always "made to order" and you might end up being attracted to someone who has some sort of "flaw" like being too tall or too blonde or whatnot.
Imageiko Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Not an issue for me at all really. She would probably have to be well below 5 feet for it to be an issue. (I'm 6'1'') I wouldn't worry about it unless he gives you a reason to believe otherwise.
mr.dream merchant Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 I like dating short girls. They're squishy and bouncy (in the bed).
Lucky_One Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 It's only awkward if you duct-tape a ruler to your head. (I just do NOT get all the hang-ups people have about height. Like it defines a person's personality. I date the person, not their height.)
alexandria35 Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Wow! I'm 5'1 and it's never ever occured to me to feel weird about dating really tall guys. Most of my bf's have been 6 feet or taller and I've never found that odd. Might be awkward for formal dancing but how much time does the average couple actually spend dancing together?
Feelin Frisky Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 I'm 6'2" and I surely would have no problem with someone 5'2". I've seen someone who was 4'-11". My taste is a little taller but who falls in love with a height?
AHardDaysNight Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 I agree. I think you're making too big of a deal out of this.
Star Gazer Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 I'm 5'4'' and have dated 6'6'' and 6'8'' and my most recent ex was almost 6'4''...not a problem at all.
PJKino Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 but who falls in love with a height? Women......
somedude81 Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 I date the person, not their height.) I could easily throw the entire thread off-topic with that comment. Anyways, I just hope that women read it and spend some time thinking about it.
Author sayitasitis Posted September 7, 2011 Author Posted September 7, 2011 I would feel awkward with the height. Though I'm more concerned and embarassed now that I think the guy made a comment about it but it didn't hit me at that time that it might bother him. So now I'm left feeling that I should have noticed that comment.
EnigmaticClarity Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Shortest girl I've dated long-term is 5' 7" and that was shorter than I prefer, I'd never date under that. A big height difference is a constant distraction to me, I prefer something close to equality with women. I'm most comfortable with plus or minus 4-5 inches, which means that actresses, models, and WNBA centers are just my size. I'd be interested to try dating taller, although I'd have to be totally sure that height didn't matter at all to her, which is rare and I don't expect it to happen. Current girlfriend is 6' 1" and I'm loving that size.
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