micot Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 i'm a dumpee of a 6 yr relationship .i never got a breaking up talk,letter,e-mail nothing .never got a reason [like others here ].she left me almost 3 months ago .some days i do good ,some days not good .we had a good relationship ,even she agrees.she says i did nothing wrong it was/is her . what i think about the reason being another guy and from what i seen [her with another guy] she don't admit it when asked . the thing that really bothers me the most is this .we had a good realationship for 6 yrs.if someone asked for her number or something why couldn't or didn't she just say thanks but no thanks ,or i'm already with someone i should be true .was the other person just soo irresistable so hard to resist -those are the questions that keep me up at night . maybe some of you people go through these thoughts also and of course to her / in her mind we're friends now - i don't see it but when we run into each other she tries to reinforce that we're friends
Author micot Posted September 6, 2011 Author Posted September 6, 2011 ohh i'm with you on trusting someone -i've been out met other women but when we talk i only believe half of what they say ,i'm not gonna be trusting another female 100% anymore theirs no way . and if that means i'll remain single then i'll remain single
M2155 Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 If you can't learn to trust, then yes, you will be single. Trusting means being vunerable. Being vunerable means opening yourself up to the possiblity of being hurt. That's just life. A lot of us have gone through what you have. Hell a lot of us probably experienced being enticed by someone ourselves. The truth is, something was probably missing for her and she left a good thing for an ok thing. I once heard a quote about don't leave someone who is 80% (no one is perfect) chasing that other 20%. OR she just really wasn't feeling it and didn't think it would get better. I think a lot of women will stick it out for a good while until inside they just aren't happy and realize there are other fish in the sea. If she didn't want to make it work with you, no woman puts in 6 years if she was willing to throw it away. Surely she had "options" earlier that she declined. Sounds like a "it's not you, it's me." One thing I'm coming to realize is there is NO easy way to end a relationship where it is something like that. Better she leave you at 6 years than at 16. That's no consoliation, but hope you enjoy single life for a little while.
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