Signs of a cheater ?

[Buttercup84]

So while my ex and I were together I learned a few things about his ex . She apparently treated him badly , he met her on a dating site .

 

1.when I asked him which one , he couldn't remember or just didn't want to tell me

 

2. While they were together he met a girl over the phone at work and they exchanged emails . No mention of his girlfriend .

 

3. When she broke up with him he went straight onto that site again

 

4. He said he deleted his profile as soon as we met

 

5. Later on he said that he kept it up for a few weeks just in case

 

6. He then went back to saying he deleted it when we met

 

7. He deleted his browser history a lot

 

8. He liked to point out my flaws yet never wanted to hear his

 

9. In the end he hardly wanted sex , and only when he wanted it .

 

10. He often had sleep sex , where he was half dreaming half awake

 

11. He called me paranoid when I suspected something and got angry

 

12. He said we are only together because he hadn't met anyone nicer yet

 

13. I once walked into his computer room when he quickly closed a window , I swear I saw a girl on there

 

14. He said cheating was disgusting

 

15. In the end he went to Pubs with his friend a lot , forgot to call me etc

 

16. This year we didn't go on a date once

 

17. After he dumped me I saw his email to a friend saying that he signed to that site again , he wished he dis that sooner . He signed up before we broke up . I got into his profile and it was a hidden profile . Judging by the photos he never deleted his profile .

 

18. He said he had it to be a support of his single friend who's also on there .

 

 

19.I always had a feeling something was weird .

 

 

We lived together btw

[Buttercup84]

When I read this I feel like an idiot . He put me down so much then would be so nice. He made me feel like it was all my fault for his cold behavior .

[ludovico]

19.I always had a feeling something was weird .

BINGO... your intuition is usually spot-on...

 

now re-read the list and ask yourself "What have I learned?"

[wilsonx]

 

14. He said cheating was disgusting

 

 

Oh I have heard this too many times. I heard it from my ex and the one before her.

 

Stay off the dating websites. They are terrible

[danceallday]

So sorry. So very sorry to hear that you are going through that. My ex did that kind of s*** to me. I just don't even have the words to describe the way some people behave, because it would never occur to me to act that way.

[Buttercup84]

@ danceallday thank you , I am so sorry you are going through it too.Hope one day we will look back and be glad we are rid of those jerks.

 

@ludovico , guess he made me feel like I was paranoid when I voiced my concerns...gotta trust myself more.

 

@Wilsonx sorry to hear about that.It is disgusting.

[visualbasicide]

I wouldn't just say yes to this, but it is very likely. Seems if he didn't physically cheat on you, he probably did emotionally. As far as the sex goes, It's not always a sign of cheating. When there is tension in a relationship this happens to many people.

 

My ex played the "flaw" game, and really, when someone tears you down, you really don't want to be intimate with them.

 

This often leads to one or the other cheating though. In my own case, she burned me down, so I didn't want sex as much, so she went elsewhere to get it. Totally doesn't make sense to me sometimes but whatever.