Diamond813 Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 (edited) Okay.... This is thread will be long and full of detail because I want an accurate honest answer. I met this guy off of a dating site in mid June. Our first interaction was through text. He mentioned to me he didnt want to text back and forth untill we met face to face because "Women" use the whole phone thing as a crutch and reason to not link up. (All said by him) About a week later we met up at a night club and talked the entire night, even stayed in the parking lot of the club untill about 4 that morning just talking. Days later we met again for a real date to dinner and a movie. It was great and I was into him. That same night we sat in my car in front of the theatre for 2 almost 3 hours just talking and getting to know one another. As I said... I was into him by this point and I wanted to know where he stood as far as being in a relationship so I asked him if thats what he was looking for. He replied, explaining to me his situation that he just moved back to the area and is in between careers and living with his parents... Oh... lol and his gas guzzling ass truck! He said he wants to be in a relationship it's just not the right time BECAUSE of his situation. "A man cant be in a relationship and is broke" (thats what he said) I told him none of that should matter, that if a woman wants to be with you and you with her none of that should matter. A relationship is 50-50, you help me and I'll help you it doesnt necessisarily fall under finances. He agreed and we left it alone. A month has gone by and I still have not seen him again. We talk, text and im (Instant message) every single day. I understand he's a very busy man when it comes to his education so I didnt stress him about it although I was begining to feel quite antsy and weary if he found another interest. Finally he mentioned he was going out to a night club and I should meet him there. Sooooo I did lol. He held my hand and walked me over to one of his old College buddies to introduce us. Once he introduced us he excused himself to the restroom. Was gone entirely to long... He was intoxicated... Not waisted but he was loose. lol I figured he might have gotten lost. Anyway, the time he was gone I tried to make convo. with his friend so it didnt feel so awkward just standing there lol. His friend asked me for my number...??? I was confused so I said I dont think your buddy would like that. His friend replied "Oh... I didnt know ya'll where exclusive, he told me you where single" I replied "I am single but I've been dating your friend for a minute" Moments later I got a text on my phone from my guy asking me where I was... lol His ass got lost! His friend leaned over and read my text with a frown on his face. I noticed his look and I excused myself to go find my little lost one. When I found him I asked him if he said it was ok for his boy to "Holla" at me. He sais " I didnt say it was OK for him to holla at you but he asked me if we where an item, if you where single and I said you where single. We're only dating. So I cant keep you from seeing other men" I understood and left it alone. Later that night he grabbed me by the waist and smiled. He caught me off guard and my immediate facial expression read off as "Ummm, what r u doing??" without me saying anything at all he let go and said in defence that he was only being affectionate. To be honest I didnt want him to let go. It just threw me off when he did it. Leaving the club I stressed my concerns of his being able to drive home safely. He repeatedly said he was fine. We chatted for about 5 minutes and we went our seperate ways. FFWD: About a month or so later the last time I had seen him was at the club. We still communicated everyday since we met though and everything was fine between us. I wanted to see him within the time we had last linked up and even made suggestions and he always shot me down with an excuse of some sort. I was begining to feel as if he did loose interest. I mentioned to him a couple times before that I liked him and he NEVER said anything in response. One night I decided to ask him if he liked me in the same way as I liked him and he replied "Yes, I do" He's never said it again since. I regret asking him because he may have felt pressured into saying yes to be sure of not hurting my feelings. I liked the answer he gave but wasnt sure if it was genuine but I left it as is. I never asked again. About a week ago he and I met up again. I spent the night and day with him. He is so sweet. When I got there he cooked for me.. (Mmmmm ) we sat and ate while watching a movie. Later that night... things happened. He seemed nervous about making the first move so I made the first move. Eventually I pulled him over me and we started kissing...... This man was LAUGHING!!!.... Where they do that at?? I asked him why he was laughing and he said he didnt know... Hmph... Ok I replied and we got back into it... He was laughing and grinning from ear to ear..... I started laughing because I thought it was kinda cute but funny. I figure it was a nervous laugh. We got into action (the man is AWESOME) I looked into his face and he was just smiling.... I've never known a man to laugh and smile during sex... I asked him again the next morning why he kept laughing and he sais "I guess I was just happy" I smiled at him and let him know I enjoyed myself as well. After he made us breakfast, we lay on the couch his head cradled to my arm. I began to rub his head (Massage)... I touched his hand and played a little with his fingers. He grabbed a hold of my hand for a bit and then let go. I knew he had to get alot of work done so I thought to leave a few times but I didnt want to because I knew it would be a while before the next time I would see him. Everytime I made a move in attempt to go get my things together he started talking to me. We ended up mutually seperating for the evening because he had interns to apply for and I know that's not easy to do. I didnt want to distract him for another night and besides I had to go to work the day after and his parents would be back into town that morning. We where ready to leave or so I thought! We stood in front of his beautiful home for a good hour + talking. He seen I was being attacked by mosquitoes and decided to let me go. He kissed me on the lips and hugged me tight. Overall... This guy is great. He's.... so great. I'm not emotionally attached although I would like to be but I know that when his bar exam results come back he will be on the next flight to NY for work. (Im sure he passed ) I'll be way down south with feelings for a man I cant touch and I know long distance relationships are hard... VERY hard! (He got smart with me and said "Babe.... Planes?? Duhh lol") also because I know he talks to other women. Occasionally I'll log onto the site I met him off of and I see he's logged on. I don't have luck with men... I'll find one like him and loose him to competition. They all say I'm beautiful, smart, comical and mature for my age (23) but I do look pretty young (like 17 I've been told) I have insecurities with that a little because I only date older men (He's 32) and I dont want him to feel as if people are staring at us because I look like his child. I have insecurities... BIG time. He knows this and he told me We will work on that together. I didnt have the best childhood. Great parents horrible neighborhood kids . They beat my ego down to nothing. He's a positive influence on my life and I would love to keep him... To be with him because I know I will be happy with him. He pushes me to my potential with all that I do and I just want to know If he feels the same way. Men are so complex... tooooo complex. I dont want to ruin this by making assumtions of his feelings and end up leaving to soon or falling for him with hurt feelings being my results. My issue with him is that I never get to see him because he never seems to want to see me. He uses his study my work schedule and his gas guzzling truck as a constant excuse but yet he goes out to night clubs at least once a week. Thanks for reading my... Novel. I told you it would be long and detailed. Someone please give me insight on my situation. I hope it's good. Btw. He talks to me outside of his home for hours on end because he has horrible reception inside ( Which I know to be true) He gets torn to pieces by mosquitoes to talk to me. Also if you believe in zodiacs He's a Pisces and I'm a Cancer Edited September 6, 2011 by Diamond813 Making a few adjustments
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