maiden71 Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 I'm just curious as to how those of you guys who are married and don't have much extra money deal with making your woman happy? I got married just a few weeks ago and since I pay my ex-wife $1000 a month in child support I don't have much extra money at all for me and my new wife. After I pay the ex I'm basically left with about $2000 a month to pay all of our bills etc. My wife does bring home about $1400 a month to help out. This annoys my new wife who I don't think really believed me when I told her I was stretched out financially while we were dating. I tried and tried to tell her through the whole year and a half we dated before marrying though. I didn't lie to her. She comes from money, being married to a rich guy for 12 years, so this is really causing her a lot of stress. I'm really not sure what to do. I love this woman a lot but I don't know if I can make her happy or not.
lonelyandfrustrated Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 I refer you back to your post: Run and don't look back!!!!!!!!!!!! I speak from recent experience. I dated a girl whom I liked and was friends with 25 years ago back in highschool also. She was married 12 years to a guy who cheated on her. When I met her a year and a half ago again she told me she was seperated and getting divorced from him. We started dating. A few months later I got a call from a mutual (didn't know it at the time) friend telling me that she was hooking up with her ex behind my back. She also had the financial and drinking problems that you speak of. I was caught totally off guard as I thought her and me were something really special. I loved her to death. It hurt to find out I wasn't special to her at all. One thing I've learned about women is that they NEVER really get past an ex. I guess when she told me that she still loved the guy she went to the prom with when she married her husband that that should've been my red flag. We ended up staying together in a love triangle for a while even after I found out about the two of them and even got engaged. Yes I was a fool and let her play me way to long. It's amazing the thing's you'll overlook or try to ignore when you really love someone though. Never again I say though. Unless the woman is a virgin I'm running. My heart can't take anymore. from July, and recommend you get divorced. You married a cheater, and if you pile golddigger on top of it, you're in for a miserable life.
Author maiden71 Posted September 6, 2011 Author Posted September 6, 2011 I was hoping to get some feedback without anyone knowing all my/our prior details.
2sure Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 Since you are both divorced, I am wondering if it is only you...or does she also have children from the previous marriage?
Author maiden71 Posted September 6, 2011 Author Posted September 6, 2011 She has an 11 year old daughter. She get's child support though, while I pay it out.
scaredandalone1223 Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 The best times I spend with my husband don't cost a dime and some of the best gifts he's ever given me have been free. We were young and broke when he got engaged so I didn't get a diamond ring, nor a big wedding, nor a fancy honeymoon. That made the diamond anniversary band I received after 10 years that much more special. If she can't be happy without being shown love monetarily then it's not love she got married for.
make me believe Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Geez, if your wife is "stressed" because she doesn't have enough shopping money, why doesn't she get a 2nd job or a higher paying job and earn it herself? My husband and I don't have a lot of money because I'm not working right now (in school) and his job isn't super high paying. But it bothers him more than it bothers me because he starts worrying he's not "providing enough" for us. -- His mother never worked & his dad makes a lot of money, so he sometimes compares himself to his dad and worries that he's not good enough. I married him because I love him, though, not because I expect him to pay the bills & take care of me financially. If she can't be happy without being shown love monetarily then it's not love she got married for. I totally agree. It sounds like this is only the tip of the iceberg of their problems, too. =/
Osiris1234 Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 After I pay the ex I'm basically left with about $2000 a month to pay all of our bills etc. My wife does bring home about $1400 a month to help out. This annoys my new wife who I don't think really believed me when I told her I was stretched out financially while we were dating. She comes from money, being married to a rich guy for 12 years, so this is really causing her a lot of stress. Sounds like she didn't have to do anything while married to this rich guy. I also agree with makemebelieve, doesn't sound like she loves you at all, but the money instead. Im not surprised though, alot of women do marry not just for love but also for financial security. A website recently took a poll of 3000 women, 70% said they would divorce their husband if they ran into a financial situation. That says alot.
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