wyrllish Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 (edited) There's a thread I found several years ago on this board that really helped me in a past situation that was from the view of a dumper. She dumped him because he was need/clingy however. The process of getting your ex back in that situation is, imo, relatively simple. Seeking dumpers out there that could give some insight into those looking for advice in this situation: Your partner was neglectful/didn't give you everything you wanted and you dumped them. If you eventually got back together: What did your partner do that helped? If you didn't get back together: What could have possibly helped? In either situation did they do anything that pushed you further away? If applicable: If you found someone soon after the break up what advice do you give the dumpee in this situation? Looking over many of the threads this seems to a common thing and I'd like to have a general place where many could get advice. Realize every story is situational but general advice always helps those in need. Thank you. Found the thread I originally was talking about. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t114697/ Edited September 6, 2011 by wyrllish
DenumChkn Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Well ****.. I can't help you with getting your girl back if you neglected her.. but reading through that old post you linked has now got me totally lost. I'm questioning whether I should be sticking to a strict NC regiment or if I should send a text or a letter (something brief but meaningful, not begging just saying hi and wishing well).. It has been almost 2 weeks of NC and the last time I talked to her I called her a few days after I told her I thought we should just be friends. It was the night before her birthday and I was hoping we could meet up the next day.. but she was very cold towards me, didn't understand why I had called as she thought we "agreed to no contact" and said she was "irritated" I just said "alright then, well have a great birthday". and that was the last words we spoke.. She still has some stuff of mine and I some of hers, but reading that whole post has now got me completely in my own head.. Do I just continue to wait for her to make a move?
Author wyrllish Posted September 7, 2011 Author Posted September 7, 2011 if your last contact was like with her and after reading that thread you think you should contact her again...you need to read that whole thread again, then do it 5 more times.
DenumChkn Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 hmm, touche says the salesman. i see your point, but still the way that chick words it in her thread she makes me feel like i'm supposed to be doing something.. then again if i have to work and think this hard about it she probably isnt worth it anyway.. why is there not some magic 'get the eff over it' button in our brains? i hate this. (ps. sorry for stealing your thread)
Author wyrllish Posted September 7, 2011 Author Posted September 7, 2011 the thread is about helping people so dont think youre hijacking the thread. thats why i posted it so someone could benefit. again im going to say you didnt take my advice. if you read her very first post you wouldnt be thinking these things. she specifically says to not initiate contact, only respond in a nice/polite way if your ex contacts you and do not bring up anything emotional, keep it light and do not ask for anything. just be
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