NordicStripes Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 God... okay, I saw my ex last weekend, he came to the town I'm living in now. We spent the whole day together, and we fought some about what had happened, but then again we mostly had a great time together. He kept telling me how great I am, how much he loves me and how much he wants to fight for a chance to get back together. Then yesterday I saw him again, only two days after. We spent some time together, and at one point we just kissed... And we kept kissing for the rest of the time. I'm really confused, and I feel bad. I'm still not sure if getting back together would be the best thing - and I told him that. But mostly, I'm scared that he now will think he 'has' me again, and won't have to go through all the trouble anymore. We talked about it and he assured me that he realises he still has a lot of work cut out for him, but that he is now more certain than ever that I'm the one for him... Oh I'm so confused...
Hatu Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 How long did you date? Are you both in love? Hooking up with an EX can be bad news bears, but it's not always bad. My advice is set BOUNDARIES. Tell him you can't be getting physical this early. I see no problem with hanging out with him, spending time together and trying to enjoy each other's company. But kissing, making out and anything beyond is just asking for trouble. You don't want to fall into friends with benefits, someone always gets hurt.
Feelin Frisky Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 You don't sound "confused", just anxious and uncertain. You seem to have it sorted out. It's just the feelings that come with unsettled relationship. Hang in there.
Author NordicStripes Posted September 7, 2011 Author Posted September 7, 2011 Hi guys! Thanks for your replies. I think you're definitely right about setting boundaries, and I told the ex that this wouldn't happen again until I'm 100% sure I want to give us another go... However, I am a bit at a loss here... You see, even though I (obviously) still have feelings for him and we get along great, I'm still not coping with the fact that he slept with another girl only days after we broke up (he broke up with me, because he thought I was too jealous and we didn't work anymore. Afterwards he said he was wrong and it wasn't me, it was him. And yes it was - if you need the details I'll give them to you). What if I'll never be able to cope with the fact that he did that? And how can I know? :-(
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