billion Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 (edited) Hi there, My ex and I have been together for about a year. He Instigated the break up. After some turmoils and no contact, we're back in the friendship zone, as he first suggested and I later accepted. We haven't seen each other much since the break up and lately, I met someone fantastic, that really treats me well. I've been hanging around town lately with this person and the word have been spreading.. after a couple of days, I received phone calls from my ex. He suggested a Meet up ( the first since the BU) . We have spent the afternoon together and it was great! He seemed a little shy but friendly, he hasen't talked a bit about the relationship, just chatted as friends but at some point.. He slipped out 'so, who are you hanging out with lately?'... And I just mentioned a couple of my friends.. Haven't mentioned the guy for the simple reason that I wanted to keep it for myself, none of his biz. Then later on, he told me that one of his friend saw me in the city... Without further questions.. But I just felt that he was trying to get some infos.. Anyway.. I know that we agreed to be friends, but timing seems weird to me for a meet up... Do some guys just try to come back when the girl they thought was head over heels for them, just gets a new life? Can it really be pure friendship?.... I felt he played it safe.. Thanks! Edited September 6, 2011 by billion
Author billion Posted September 8, 2011 Author Posted September 8, 2011 Thanks for letting me know what you think...
M2155 Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 I really don't know... But it seems men (at least) have an uncanny ability to come back around just when you have really moved on. I've experienced this and yes, in the back of their mind I think they are wondering what they let go and need to reconfirm to themsleves that they made the right decision. OR, maybe he always thought he could get you back one day. It doesn't really matter if a guy dumps you, he'll always hate the thought of you being with someone else. Now he's sniffing around. I'm really happy for you to have found someone great. I'd just respond nicely toward his attempts, but be very distant and unavailable (which you are). Your ex will probably get the picture one way or the other and his "friendship" will fall off when he realizes he lost. Seriously, those of us who would want a 2nd chance should just move on...lol. (I know, easier said than done)
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