SWblue Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 So me and my ex started dating our senior year of highschool, i went to a college 2.5 hours away and she stayed in our hometown. We decided to give it a shot and see how everything went. Everything between us was great untill about March when my feelings for her started to change. I think it was a combination of distance and all we did was text, barely talked on the phone or skyped. So i broke up with her in may and we didnt talk at all untill the end of july. We saw each other out one night andhad a long conversation that got a lot of built up tension out. Right after we talked i wanted to get back together with her. So we met up a few days later and i told her. She said that she would like to, but wants to make sure that my feelings dont change once i go back to college and i agreed. Ever since I have been back at college (about 3 weeks) my feelings for her have just gotten stronger. I told her that i wanted to talk to her on the phone and skype her because i think that would make our feelings for each other stronger. We have talked on the phone twice, but i get the feeling that she doesnt really want to. She has never called me, its always her calling me. She said that she doesnt see herself with anyone else but doesnt know if she wants to give me a second chance. She kinda has a thing for a guy that she liked before we started dating but says it isnt anything serious at all. I know she made out with him a couple times over the summer. I feel like i have to do something to try to get her feelings for me stronger but im dont know what to do. I really want to get back with her, im constantly thinking abbout her and just imagining us when we are back together. I just have a gut feeling that its not going to happen. Im not sure what to do, but i know i need to do something. Any advice?
DenumChkn Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 How often do you guys get to see each other? I think it is always a bad idea to get into any type of LDR.. I have just never seen one work. I know you love her and it is hard, but I'd break it off and just focus on your school and improving yourself. I was dumped a few weeks ago and have been hurting, really wanting her back - the best remedy for this is to socialize, meet new people, exercise and generally stay busy. It's the quiet moments in your room alone before bed or when you wake up that it hurts the most - that's why I just try to keep moving and keeping optimistic thoughts in my head. Try to look back on your memories with her fondly for now and know that the possibility of reconnecting with her later on down the line is a very real one. Cheers and best of luck.
Author SWblue Posted September 6, 2011 Author Posted September 6, 2011 How often do you guys get to see each other? Since we started talking about getting back together, i have seen her about five times. But only once since i have been back at college. Im going home in two weeks and hopefully will get to hang out with her then and then again two weeks after that for fall break
Eddie Edirol Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 LDR's dont work when both people arent all in about it. Right now, I think you lost her. Since you hurt her, She will not want to try again with you until she finds out the other guy doesnt work out first. I say let her go and do what she wants, since she doesnt want to talk to you over the phone. Let her miss you, because at this point, if you keep calling her, she will eventually start cutting the conversations short, so she can go talk to him. Dont get anymore invested into this, let her go.
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