simpsonic Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 Actually three questions: 1. After a breakup, when did you start dating again? 2. When is it safe for the new person not to be called a rebound? 3. Does it depend on if you're the dumper or dumpee? (in other words, if you're the dumpee for example, should you take longer to date again than if you were the dumper? Or does that not matter?)
Author simpsonic Posted September 6, 2011 Author Posted September 6, 2011 (edited) Not every question has to be answered btw. They just came to my mind at once. Giving this another shot since yesterday was a holiday. Or maybe this should be posted in the Breakups section... Edited September 6, 2011 by simpsonic re-worded a sentence
Yellow_Duck'y Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 1. About a year. 2. Time varies and it depends on the length, circumstances, and the outcome of the person's last relationship. 3. It depends on the context of the relationship itself... A person can be in a relationship with someone who was emotionally unavailable, but decides to finally leave the relationship. Even though they are technically the "dumper", they are really the "dumpee" because the other person rejected them initially (by being emotionally unavailable). There are too many variables to accurately answer questions 2 & 3. The best thing you can do, is pay attention to your own thoughts/feelings, and pay attention to the person you are dating (their prior relationship history, their emotional availability, their attitude towards their ex, their views towards the opposite sex, relationships, trust, commitment, etc.).
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