Lolipops Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 So I met a guy online, exchanged phone numbers, and began texting each other for about 5 days. He would text several times a day. He asked me out for drinks and so we met. I was a bit uncomfortable due to it being the first time ever meeting someone from online, wasn't sure how the attraction/ flirting would translate. It went great though- conversation was easy, etc... well it started getting really bad outside (tropical storm) and we had been there for a couple of hours, and he was tired after driving 7 hours in the rain to get home from visiting his daughter. So we hugged goodbye and I started to think he just wasn't interested. Got into my car & he called to tell me how much he enjoyed meeting me, etc... then about 5 minutes later he sent a text that he was feeling awake now and would I want to go watch a movie at his place. I agreed & we watched a movie - held hands. After the movie was over we made out for awhile and then I drove home. He sent a text " have a safe drive home". I sent a text back when I got home that said I arrived safely & had a great time. Now today- he hasn't sent a text or called. I know its only been a day. So not being used to this OLD stuff. Do I wait for him to contact (text/call) me or do I send him a text and if so - what should I say? Thanks!
Casablanca Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 Approach it like any other relationship...meeting someone online doesnt have to be approached all that different from meeting someone at a bar or a party or school, etc. Once you get their number and are talking offline, just act like you would in other situation where you are talking to someone. Text him if you want, could just be a hope you have a great day...dont over think it...if he is interested he'll let you know...you're not gonna scare him away as long as you're not smothering him with contact
country_gurl Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 Don't you think it was kinda crazy/risky to agree to go back to essentially a stranger's place the first time you meet? There are a lot of wackos out there, particularly on dating sites. What if he would have attacked you? raped you? beat you? Assuming you live in North America, today is a holiday. It's possible he's busy today. Or maybe he's relaxing/sleeping due to his long drive yesterday. Or maybe he's not really interested because he didn't get laid and he's moved on.
FitChick Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 I think he was hoping to get laid. Foolish move.
simpsonic Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 Don't you think it was kinda crazy/risky to agree to go back to essentially a stranger's place the first time you meet? There are a lot of wackos out there, particularly on dating sites. What if he would have attacked you? raped you? beat you? Assuming you live in North America, today is a holiday. It's possible he's busy today. Or maybe he's relaxing/sleeping due to his long drive yesterday. Or maybe he's not really interested because he didn't get laid and he's moved on. Exactly my thoughts. He didn't get what he wanted and now he's probably looking for someone who will give it to him. Next time you meet a guy, especially online, don't go to his place so soon. Not only is it risky like country_gurl said, it's also an open invitation. Consider this a lesson learned.
Author Lolipops Posted September 6, 2011 Author Posted September 6, 2011 Sorry, I wasn't thinking and left out some information! I didn't meet him on a dating site (although I did sign up for one). I normally meet my dates in person, so this OLD is new to me. It was through a friend, but our first communications were done online. He actually lives across the street from my bestfriend, though we had never met. Yes, I do think it was sorta crazy to go to his house. But, before I agreed to it I called and made sure my bestfriend and her hubby (a police officer) were home. They came outside and we all talked for a few minutes. I had also called my sister and another friend. He was a gentlemen. So I guess I got lucky. I am also at a point in my life where I feel a few caculated/ thought out risks are ok. Update: He sent me a text, told me he had a great time, and we are planning a date for this weekend. It wont be at his house! LOL!
Casablanca Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 Don't you think it was kinda crazy/risky to agree to go back to essentially a stranger's place the first time you meet? There are a lot of wackos out there, particularly on dating sites. What if he would have attacked you? raped you? beat you? True, but it's no different when a person goes home with someone from a bar and people can hide their wackoness inside for a few dates when you "think" you know them
country_gurl Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 True, but it's no different when a person goes home with someone from a bar and people can hide their wackoness inside for a few dates when you "think" you know them True but a lot of women also wouldn't go home with a guy we met at the bar either.
Casablanca Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 True but a lot of women also wouldn't go home with a guy we met at the bar either. At least not the ones that are girlfriend worthy
ThsAmericanLife Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 Sorry, I wasn't thinking and left out some information! I didn't meet him on a dating site (although I did sign up for one). I normally meet my dates in person, so this OLD is new to me. It was through a friend, but our first communications were done online. He actually lives across the street from my bestfriend, though we had never met. Yes, I do think it was sorta crazy to go to his house. But, before I agreed to it I called and made sure my bestfriend and her hubby (a police officer) were home. They came outside and we all talked for a few minutes. I had also called my sister and another friend. He was a gentlemen. So I guess I got lucky. I am also at a point in my life where I feel a few caculated/ thought out risks are ok. Update: He sent me a text, told me he had a great time, and we are planning a date for this weekend. It wont be at his house! LOL! You sound a bit naive. Not sure if you've started this whole thing on the right foot. I hope you don't come back posting after date 2 or 3 'we had sex then he dumped me'... or... 'we had sex... but he still wants to see other people'... or... 'we had sex... but then I never hear from him'....
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