Movingthrough Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 (edited) I made a huge post a few days ago about seeing my ex a year later when i was around for work. It was one of the hardest/best things that could ever happen to me. A few days after i was really down in the dumps, but it was the harsh reality i had to hear to start really moving on. During the time i met her she very much had a fake confidence up, i dont say that to make myself feel better but while she didnt mention her current situation (she is dating someone else), she was very "cool" acting. As time went on we ended up talking and hugging, a few times she cried, almost the typical what you would consider in a meeting like that. She went back and forth with basically saying we arent compatiable because of our past, then the next second made it sound like she made a mistake leaving me, she would get real emotional and just stare in my eyes. It was very obvious she was thinking things but not saying everything. During this whole time, even when it felt like my heart was being ripped out, i handled it perfectly and made it a good time in the middle of pain on both ends. In my head though i had no thoughts that this meeting would bring us back together and like i said in my other post, almost felt good that i was able to get some things out face to face to move on. Before she left she pulled me in close and started kissing me, it was random and i wasnt expecting it. It lasted for a few minutes, i walked her out, kissed her on the cheek and said goodbye. She texted me after saying small things, i did not answer. I told myself i would not because at this point i have done all i can do. Since then, she has emailed me or texted me everyday, spilling her guts basically saying she misses me, loves me, feels like she belongs to me etc. I have not responded. I feel the best thing to do is ignore, but i also hate looking like a sad/mad ex that cant "bare" myself to talk to her. I have no thoughts this is going to bring us back together, but it keeps happening. Is the best/mature route to just say nothing? What do you guys think? Edited September 5, 2011 by Movingthrough
wilsonx Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 Just let it go. You opened Pandora's box so to speak and now the chaos emerges.
Author Movingthrough Posted September 5, 2011 Author Posted September 5, 2011 Just let it go. You opened Pandora's box so to speak and now the chaos emerges. Its funny because as we all know through out a breakup, the ignoring and the no answering from our ex's is always what pisses us off most so i hate stooping to that level. At this point though i dont even really feel like doing anything, but i also dont like the anxiety of random texts, emails and calls at anytime.
M2155 Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 Wow, interesting. Your actions are probably making her feel the loss more desperately. I think about what it would be like running into my ex after a lot of time has passed and I imagine it similar (as her). Me try to be cool but feelings come flooding back and I get emotional and then can't stop thinking about him again lol. I would HOPE I am as strong as you though and keep my distance. Right now she is reacting out of emotion if she wasn't texting you before running into you. It's very possible she may be open to reconciling but you have to think about what's best for you and why you didn't work out the first time. But I know what you all mean about feeling like we're ignoring them. Maybe tell her to give it a few weeks and then call you if she still wants to talk. Emotional responses are not logical. Proceed with logic.
0hpenelope Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 I feel the best thing to do is ignore, but i also hate looking like a sad/mad ex that cant "bare" myself to talk to her. I have no thoughts this is going to bring us back together, but it keeps happening. Is the best/mature route to just say nothing? What do you guys think? It's your call, I think. I mean, you were able to get yourself to meet up with her so if you respond, it won't send you terribly backwards (Or would it?). What do you want to say to her? "I've said my peace and I would really appreciate it if you left me alone now. Good luck with everything." Or would you keep up communication even though you don't feel like it? Do you want to be friends with her eventually? Is there a goal with her or is there a goal without her? Do you just want to present yourself as the pleasant ex that she can talk to however and whenever now? What is the purpose? Is there one at all? Personally, if someone ignores me, I'm not really the type to pursue attention from that person and just let it go, work on the unresolved issues I have w/ the individual as much as I'm able to, and move on from there. Someone I ignore will hopefully get on the clue train and take a hint that if I wanted to talk to them, their text messages, phone calls, Facebook messages, e-mails, smoke signals, Bat signal (I went there), etc. wouldn't have gone ignored. Alas, that is not the case but I carry on with ignoring because I really don't want to talk to them. Hence, ignoring. Also, I remember your earlier threads, brother. The tides, oh how the tides change and turn sometimes.
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