broke my engagement to be with her, she then breaks up with me...

[sixfeetunder]

Didnt really think i would be posting anything on a website like this ever, but i guess everyone at some point felt that way.

 

So the story goes...i was engaged with someone, until i met this one girl. Never felt anything like i did with her, but it was complicated and we both knew it. Lots of ups and downs, but in the end i broke off the engagement to be with her. I said some stupid stuff prior to that, but i was confused and all. But in the end i broke off the engagement to be with her

 

Family problems continued, and it put alot of pressure on the relationship. So i decided i needed to fix the problems with the family once and for all, so that i could be with her and there would be no problems. Here is where the problems come in, in my effort to solve the problems with the family i disincluded her entirely. I didnt tell her what was going on, because i felt like i didnt want to burden her with my problems. I was confused, and overwhelmed with all the issues. And i didnt talk to her for a week, because i was trying to deal with the problems at home.

 

By the time i had fixed everything at home, the damage was done. She thinks i ignored her and blew her off. I explained to her that i was trying to make thing better at home with my parents, and dealing with the after effects of breaking an engagement. But she thinks i put her last, and blew her off. According to her, if i loved her, i would have told her when everything was happening. No matter how much i say sorry, apologize or try to explain the situation she doesnt believe me.

 

We've been through alot, and she has done alotttt to be with me. But after fixing everything, she broke up with me, because she thinks i blew her off. I didnt cheat or do anything of the sort. I love her to pieces. I ended my engagement to be with her, and she broke up with me after being together for a year and a half

 

She broke up with me once already, but i insisted that this could work, and we got back together. A month later she says she doesnt feel the same anymore saying i ruined everything, blaming me for everything...

 

Currently doing the NC, since she insists on being left alone. What do i do? Im confused, and hurt....and nothing makes sense anymore...Any advise is helpful.

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[MrsNoMo]

Hi sixfeetunder. I read your post and this is what I got out of it. She is scared of commitment. She was "in love" with you while you were engaged and therefore off the limits. You broke off your engagement to be with her, things got ruff. You fixed up your family issues over the broken off engagement - she left you. See my point? I hope I'm wrong.

[Leumas]

She sounds immature and I wonder if her feelings for you ever were genuine.

 

If she has lost interest in you then there is no going back.

 

P.S. You sound like you need more experience before you get married.