misssmartypants Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 Is there a point at which a person has to accept that they will spend most of their life alone? I will be 30 in a month. i have three wonderful kids, a good job, friends and co workers who admire me, and really almost everything I have ever wanted. I'm not perfect and I have made some mistakes in my life, but I have always been able to work hard, stay focused on my goals and achieve what I wanted. Except for one area. Love. I grew up in a very dysfunctional family and made some HUGE mistakes early on, but I was lucky, I got three wonderful kids out of the deal. Now I feel like between my past and my kids, I am completely unlovable to many men. I'm an emotionally strong person, I've had to be to get to where I am. But life gets so lonely sometimes. I can pay the bills and haul the kids and earn the paychecks and keep the house, but I can't have an adult conversation with myself. I can't laugh with myself or huge myself when I've had a bad day. I crave a partner in my life. I'm relatively young, I'm pretty, I'm fairly fit. I am not a brat or a gold digger, nor do I toy with the emotions of others. I don't know what's wrong with me. I've dated a few men, but either they aren't interested in me or the ones that are into me completely turn me off. I'm not picky, but morbidly obese over-grown adult who plays in a band, lives with his mom is not what I want. Has anyone else felt so low and lonely and been able to get past those feelings? btw, I have been trying to cultivate interests and activities that aren't dating centric. I started walking with a co-worker, got bored with that and started jogging, its fun and exhausting, but kinda a solo activity. I also have gotten my son involved in scouts, its not a singles activity, but its out and about and away from work.
brokendreamz Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 I hear you. I have felt like that too in the past and I think it's all to do with getting out of your comfort zone. Big respect to you for living life the way you do - try not to think about it too much: I read a great quote on one of these threads from Winston Churchill (he wan't the one posting but some one had quoted him!!)... "It's a great mistake to try to look too far ahead - the chain of destiny can only be grasped one link at a time" You sound like a fun, interesting and warm hearted person. I'm sure you won't be lonely long X
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