Whipple Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 Maybe I've just been in the dumps this week, but I dunno. I was in an LDR in the past where we were 2000 miles apart. Needless to say, we didn't visit each other a lot. However, in between visits, I didn't miss him that much. You could argue that it was because we Skyped every day, but I honestly can say that I never really missed him. After the few visits we did have, I never felt sad/sick saying goodbye. I guess I just felt neutral the whole time during that LDR. In my new LDR with my new SO, we are only 200 miles apart. Although we don't talk daily due to our busy schedules, we visit each other more frequently, we try for at least twice a month. But, gosh, the loneliness and the pain of saying goodbye is so rough. I'm doing well at keeping myself busy but every day I miss him. If there's anything this LDR has taught me, it's that I really enjoy his company, to say the least. But I'm still waiting for the day when missing him becomes less painful. Does it ever come? In my first LDR, we had a firm end date (yet we still broke up beforehand). But in this LDR, the end date is fuzzy. I'm shooting for 2 years from now, but it may end up being 4. Could that be why I feel so sad?
folieadeux Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 I don't think it ever gets any easier...being away from the one person you want to be with more than anything is the most unnatural thing in the world. You just get used to the routine over time. I'd give anything to be 200 miles from my SO...or at least within reasonable driving distance. I could put up with it longer if we saw each other multiple times per month for sure.
FitChick Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 LDRs become more difficult over time because you become more involved. It isn't for the weak, needy or dependent, that's for sure.
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