crackster Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 (edited) Hi people i hope you all can help me out. Let me start for the beginning i been with my girlfriend for 2 and half years we were like best of friends as well we did every thing togeta! i am 24 she 20. any ways every thing was good but about 5 month ago she ended it with me saying she lost feelings and its not working out and nothing last forever so on so on.. i was really upset but i left it and i never heard from her in a week and a half so i sent a little letter and some flowers no to get her bk but just to thank her for the best 2 years i had with her so on so on... any ways after that i get a message to meet up we did and some days later got back together every thing was great again. she got a new job same time i lost mine this is like 3 months on and she asked if i wanted to go on holiday and i said yes and she booked a holiday for over 1000 pounds for us! she even stated to pay for my holiday stuff and that as i lost my job every thing was great 5 months on (2month before holiday that's coming) she stared to act weird and moody with me and keep making arguments. then she said the same thing that's its not working out this was yesterday i left her alone then i got a txt saying its over she cant do this any more... i was dead nice and she kept saying why u so nice to me when am so nasty i said cos i love you and things arnt allays happy and u have to sort things out! she text saying she lost feelings again! and its over and she is sorry! ive not heard from her in 7 days? should i just leave it? or text her after a couple of weeks! i have loads of her stuff at mine! what can i do i still love her! please help! P.S why would some one pay to go on holiday with they dont love. and one minute she really loves me next she fighting like she allays txt me little nice things like send me messages at night so i can read them in the morning and when i work some weekends away she text saying plz come back i love you and miss you loads ... --------------------------- Ok i posted that on another forum a week ago just found this one and thought i ask you guys here some new info. I took her stuff to hers including all our photo albums va-day lcards birthday cards every thing! and i still got no text i text her today and she text me back for the first time and she said i did not want to do this the nasty way but i dont love you any more! dont text me! (we were great i did not no this was happening she saying this but 2-3 weeks before she asking me if we want to go 4 dinner and the cinema- i even went to work in Scotland the other weekend she cried and says ii miss you come back i love you! that was only 3 weeks ago! i text and asked how long u felt like this and why and she replied FFS i dont no people just fallout of love! this is my last text i swear! - why she acting like i done sumit wrong and punishing me when i done nothing!! she told me to just move on and she wont eva get back with me. all my friends and family saying she acting really nasty and harsh- we were 2geta 24/7 really every day we try do sumthing and sumthing new she slept all the time and every thing we were best friends as well as lovers why- i asked why pay all the holiday and go 4 walks with me and that you love me if you did not! she said i thought them things would help but havent! now i would not speen 1000 pound on a holiday for some one i wasent 100% happy and in love with me! i just dont get it she just ruled me out in one day! i said dont you feel any thing or a bit -upset r bad about this she just text saying whatever i get my stuff in a few weeks and that was it! i dunno what to do should i just leave it or chase her? thank you. p.s BTW only like a month before that she was crying on the sofa as she thought i did not love her as much as i did! i mean WTF why would u be bothered and last week she was texting saying how long you gonna be babe bring me some... stuff in and that and hurry up miss u Edited September 5, 2011 by crackster
silly_panda Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 I'm not sure what this is but I think most probably she has the GIGS... You can read post from Homebrew or Wilsonx to understand more about this... I think meant what she said... She do not love you anymore... She was just going back and forth with you... She don't know what she wants at this point... But I'm quite sure she does not wan you... It's kinda useless to see what went wrong and all since you said you didn't do anything wrong... No point trying to find out too... Rite now... Give her some space... Most importantly give yourself time away from her and heal... You gotta move on man... Let her sort herself out first... Same old advice... Focus on yourself first...
Author crackster Posted September 6, 2011 Author Posted September 6, 2011 i agree but she not textin me any more she just sent one message yesterday saying Right Micheal after so long its silly for us to break up on bad terms i totally appreciate that your upset but i cant help how i feel like this! plz dont sit thinkin theres nothing to be done! u be fine so just move on and be happy ok we both deserve to be happy im sorry that i stoped loving you i just did! dont text back ill just pick my things up in a few weeks! plz just be brave have your dignity and be happy i dont regret bein with you its just time it ended dont text back ok! x Thats what she sent me
Cavery5 Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 Really, my wife is 21 and filed for a divorce. I really think the big thing is the age. 20 - 23 year old girls it seems like they just want to have fun and not be tied down. I have a beautiful daughter with my wife and I love her more then anything. She is 21 and wants to party and she said "I don't love you" which seems to be the common "I just want to have fun". I am letting go after 5 years of being with her man, I am letting her haver her divorce and we are going to try to stay friends for our daughter's sake. I think that if it was meant to be then after she gets through the party stage then maybe she will come back and we can work things out. Try letting go for now man, there are plenty of girls out there and then after a couple years and some growing for both you you then maybe you two can talk and see if anything can be fixed. You will probably always love her, once you love someone that never goes away. Most people fall out of "like" with someone, not out of "love", it just usually takes some time away to forget about anything negative. Be patient man, things always have a way of working out. I am sorry this is happening though man, it hurts, I know because it hurts me every day but it really does get easier.
Author crackster Posted September 7, 2011 Author Posted September 7, 2011 Really, my wife is 21 and filed for a divorce. I really think the big thing is the age. 20 - 23 year old girls it seems like they just want to have fun and not be tied down. I have a beautiful daughter with my wife and I love her more then anything. She is 21 and wants to party and she said "I don't love you" which seems to be the common "I just want to have fun". I am letting go after 5 years of being with her man, I am letting her haver her divorce and we are going to try to stay friends for our daughter's sake. I think that if it was meant to be then after she gets through the party stage then maybe she will come back and we can work things out. Try letting go for now man, there are plenty of girls out there and then after a couple years and some growing for both you you then maybe you two can talk and see if anything can be fixed. You will probably always love her, once you love someone that never goes away. Most people fall out of "like" with someone, not out of "love", it just usually takes some time away to forget about anything negative. Be patient man, things always have a way of working out. I am sorry this is happening though man, it hurts, I know because it hurts me every day but it really does get easier. thanks Cavery5 i just really cant believe its happen! we were 2geta 24/7 the way she was acting the last couple of months just seemed the opposite of want to break up. i could not answer my phone one time and she was going crazy thinking i might be with another girl... why would she care .. am just so confused i dunno what to do and there nothing i can do!
Author crackster Posted September 7, 2011 Author Posted September 7, 2011 My ex says she wants the rest of her stuff in a couple of weeks why in couple of weeks? any ways should i meet her face to face or just drop em of when she at work?
silly_panda Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 It's all up to you... If you are in NC rite now, meeting her will be breaking NC... But I personally think... It's a form of respect that you give it to her face to face...
M2155 Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 You'r really young. Take some time and enjoy being single. She doesn't know what she wants yet. I apparently am not, so what does "FFS" mean?
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