Tayla Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 For fun I took this online test to determine my compatible mate. It was based on birth order. Oddly I lean towards middle child (adults), and baby of the family ( adults). Here is irony though when deciphering this data. I was the Only daughter for 16 years in my first family (middle child in birth order), sent to live with my grandma ( only child for awhile), Became the Oldest child in a foster home . So I carried all the dynamics of being a first child, middle child, and only child. So how is it that I still draw towards the middle child (adults) and the baby of the families? Bottom line that I could determine is, Oldest child and Only childs are very goal oriented and highly responsible or irresponsible . I am a fly by the seats of my pants person and do not find balance in someone who is soo goal oriented that they forget to smell the roses along the way. So I am curious if others have noticed a pattern with their mates in their birth order verses yours? Do you lean towards First Borns? Middle,Only Child, Baby of the family? How does that affact the dynamic of your relationship? I married my spouse (now EX) and he was the baby of his family, he appreciated all that was "handed" to him and he worked equally hard if not harder to be noticed. I admired that about him.
Professor X Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 So how is it that I still draw towards the middle child (adults) and the baby of the families? Unless you're gonna tell me you had 1,000 meaningful RS so far that you can base your assumptions on, I'd say your case is just pure coincidence. Same way that so far my RS has been with at least D sized girls while breasts was never a factor for me to begin with. Talk about over-analyzing, smish, you really need to find better use for your free time.
FitChick Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 The only relevance it could possibly have is if, for example, an oldest child dated a youngest child. The youngest would be used to being bossed around while an only child or another oldest might resent it.
quankanne Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 LOL ... the only thing I lean toward is a thing for older men, creeps me out just thinking about dating someone my age, it always had. meanwhile, I'm youngest of six, he's stuck between two girls, but they've got an older brother from their dad's first marriage. I haven't seen that birth order has made a difference in our relationship, but the age factor has because of the maturity thing. And that he's accustomed to being around females is a HUGE plus because he's able to take it all in stride. So I think I would much rather look at the family dynamic when it comes to a significant other, rather than birth order ...
Feelin Frisky Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 I'm eldest of eight. Make of that what you will, to whom that may concern.
Author Tayla Posted September 5, 2011 Author Posted September 5, 2011 Unless you're gonna tell me you had 1,000 meaningful RS so far that you can base your assumptions on, I'd say your case is just pure coincidence. Same way that so far my RS has been with at least D sized girls while breasts was never a factor for me to begin with. Talk about over-analyzing, smish, you really need to find better use for your free time. Did you pull that number out of thin air? You could be a magician, matter of fact, how about starting with disappearing;) Presto!
Author Tayla Posted September 5, 2011 Author Posted September 5, 2011 LOL ... the only thing I lean toward is a thing for older men, creeps me out just thinking about dating someone my age, it always had. meanwhile, I'm youngest of six, he's stuck between two girls, but they've got an older brother from their dad's first marriage. I haven't seen that birth order has made a difference in our relationship, but the age factor has because of the maturity thing. And that he's accustomed to being around females is a HUGE plus because he's able to take it all in stride. So I think I would much rather look at the family dynamic when it comes to a significant other, rather than birth order ... Correct Quankanne, the family dynamic is also a source of intrigue. Guys who have more sisters and no brothers are apt to get along with both genders. I still find it interesting though that birth order can in some ways tell tales of the persons ability to resolve,manage, and convey themselves in a relationship. OVerall maybe it comes down to preference in personality and beliefs. Who knows, just interesting to read up on
Professor X Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 Did you pull that number out of thin air? You could be a magician, matter of fact, how about starting with disappearing;) Presto! Oh I see you're a comedian. Well, that explains your OP, well done; And here I thought you were serious for a moment - I knew no-one could be that weird. Not sure on who's expense that joke was though.
rafallus Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 Unless you're gonna tell me you had 1,000 meaningful RS so far that you can base your assumptions on, I'd say your case is just pure coincidence. Same way that so far my RS has been with at least D sized girls while breasts was never a factor for me to begin with. Talk about over-analyzing, smish, you really need to find better use for your free time. I agree. To make it sound plausible, you'd have to have all siblings to choose from the beginning. Or, start dating any of them, and, when meeting the family, find yourself consistently trading up to a middle child. Which, I imagine, would be causing some drama in the process.
Emilia Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 I tended to date youngest siblings for a while (I'm eldest) and eventually got fed up with that because the dynamics seemed uncomfortable after a while: they would end up relying on me a lot emotionally and otherwise. When I'm seeing an eldest (like my current SO) I tend to see more balance. Tend to find the only child an attention seeker and self-absorbed and yet to meet one (male or female) whose company I enjoy long term. In the meanwhile my younger sister has a large number of friends that are only children. So yes in my experience there is definitely something to the dynamic in terms of what pecking order you were brought up in
EasyHeart Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 First-borns are all Hitlers-in-training and Youngest Children never grow up. Onlies are brats. Middle children RULE!!!
Author Tayla Posted September 6, 2011 Author Posted September 6, 2011 Oh I see you're a comedian. Well, that explains your OP, well done; And here I thought you were serious for a moment - I knew no-one could be that weird. Not sure on who's expense that joke was though. Thanks for your perception, as inaccurate as it is, its yours. Now back to topic- What birth order are you in the family of siblings?
Author Tayla Posted September 7, 2011 Author Posted September 7, 2011 I tended to date youngest siblings for a while (I'm eldest) and eventually got fed up with that because the dynamics seemed uncomfortable after a while: they would end up relying on me a lot emotionally and otherwise. When I'm seeing an eldest (like my current SO) I tend to see more balance. Tend to find the only child an attention seeker and self-absorbed and yet to meet one (male or female) whose company I enjoy long term. In the meanwhile my younger sister has a large number of friends that are only children. So yes in my experience there is definitely something to the dynamic in terms of what pecking order you were brought up in Thanks Emilia for your version as its your experience Most first borns carry many good attributes and you did well in expressing the adult side of that characteristic. My brother is a middle child and he is very outgoing and competitive. He often says that having siblings younger and older created that dynamic for him to feed off of. Its served him well in many ways to be able to socialize.
Author Tayla Posted September 7, 2011 Author Posted September 7, 2011 I agree. To make it sound plausible, you'd have to have all siblings to choose from the beginning. Or, start dating any of them, and, when meeting the family, find yourself consistently trading up to a middle child. Which, I imagine, would be causing some drama in the process. Either I am misunderstanding your comment or you arent getting the birth order concept. I no where said that its WITHIN "ONE" FAMILY. Good lordy no real lady would bounce from older brother to youngest in the SAME FAMILY to "test" this theory as you perceived it. What the study has shown is we are drawn to certain characteristics of the birth order child (adult). I personally and not intentionally have dated the middle in the family line or the youngest in the family birth order. Middle children often have that "zest" in them to be heard or work towards certain goals realistically. The youngest have a sense of folly to them...Where they still yearn for attention yet as adults found positive ways to exhibit it. Nothing wrong with gaining attention, its what gets folks ears to perk sometimes . Inadvertently when I have dated and carried a relation with the First born they are often the controlling type and way to serious....There again that is my experience and not one that took 1000 folks to make such a statement of. It's simply put my perception and experience. TO each there own on that level. I don't need to eat 1000 bowls of brussel sprouts to know from the first bite that I DO NOT LIKE brussel sprouts no matter how its prepared. (ps: Yes Middle children rock )
Recommended Posts