GinaM Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 my EX dumped me 1 month ago by skype After 1 month of almost NC from my part he still stalking me He wrote me I still love you I am dying...I decided to reply with "What can we do" Here is the rest He wrote me: "I need to talk to you... I ****ed up, I was lost in my head... Now I understood I was in love... I should be more close to you... I made a mistake... I love you I ****ed up everything... Do you still love me?I have a stress and a heart pain. I feel guilty and I need to prove myself that I am a good man and also I want to give you love you deserve... We need to try again... I still love you my girl... I dont want to let you go with other man" I asked him: " What can we do? Do you want to try again?" He answered " Yes. Do you want?" I said: "I need to learn how to trust you again.... you need to think what can we do now in this situation...I feel hurt and I am trying to forgive you. I can give you one more chance as I feel there is still love between us..." 1)I do not know if he is playing games with me or no. 2) If I return to him I do not have guarantees he will not dump me again 3) Shall I wait for actions from him as I do not trust his words anymore. WHat actions it should be?" Please help me
marqueemoon4 Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 How is he "stalking" you? By sending you texts? Only you know if you care enough for him try and work things out. If you do SET BOUNDARIES and take it slow. Trust is earned!
silly_panda Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 Yeap... Go slow... If you get back together again... Treat this as a new relationship... Start all over again... Don't continue from where you two left...
Author GinaM Posted September 5, 2011 Author Posted September 5, 2011 well, yeah! may be it was wrong word....we are living in different countries.. though I was in NC by blocking skype and fb I left phone available...Also I know when he calls it costs a lot of money I am really scared he will use me and throw out when he will feel better. If I agree how can I set boundaries? Can you give me some example please? What will be the best way to react in this situation
Author GinaM Posted September 5, 2011 Author Posted September 5, 2011 yes, in the beginning I used to make reproaches as he was really mean to me....for now I found a peace in my heart and found a power to go on and live without him... I think he feels it and now he apologies, he feels guilty for what he had done So I am used to think he is seeking for a second try just to feel a relief and not to feel guilty anymore...
Author GinaM Posted September 5, 2011 Author Posted September 5, 2011 2 marqueemoon4 and silly panda! Thank you for your words, I appreciate...I need some advice I think I was not ready, I used to think its over and I started to concentrate more on me....I am sure he feels it somehow
silly_panda Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 You mean you are not ready to be in a relationship now..?
Author GinaM Posted September 5, 2011 Author Posted September 5, 2011 no no, just I was sure our relations over...
Eddie Edirol Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 Nope, dont trust him. He left you for another woman. NO, you do not trust him again. he just wants to get laid. He doesnt feel the things he is saying, he's trying to get you to feel sorry for him.
Author GinaM Posted September 5, 2011 Author Posted September 5, 2011 another woman? I never thought or ask about it I was sure there were no other men or women both from my side and his side But he broke with me just exactly before his trip to LA for vacation (where as far as I know he has no girls he knows) so you think he had some affair and now it did not work?
Eddie Edirol Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 another woman? I never thought or ask about it I was sure there were no other men or women both from my side and his side But he broke with me just exactly before his trip to LA for vacation (where as far as I know he has no girls he knows) so you think he had some affair and now it did not work? Well put it this way, what would you say to him if he told you that he broke up with you to start dating a woman in LA? Would you have kept speaking to him then? Then what if he told you it didnt work out with her and he wanted to start dating you again, would you do it? he figures you wont, so he has to lie and hide it.
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