sbradford2 Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 I don't know what to do. My kids father called late last night and said that he misses us. He left back in July because we were doing a lot of fighting and arguing. Although I miss him to, I don't miss the not being able to trust him. In the past he has cheated but there are alot of things about him that I do love. We have 2 kids together and I don't want them to be without their father but how do I decide if it is really worth giving it another shot. I said that finally this time I was going to leave him alone and move on but I still love him. I am so confused. We break up so much that I have lost count of how many times its actually been. I don't know if we could ever get it together. How do I tell him that this time either its going to be all or nothing. That he is going to get his act together or else. I can't blame it all on him because I started being abusive towards him. I would get very mad with him and yell, scream and put my hands on him. Yeah you guys I know that I am dead wrong for this and that is one of the reasons why I am glad that he did leave because I was acting out of anger and turning in to someone that was hard to love. I do have emotional issues and I have been getting help with that. So I do kinda see why he would want to leave. There were a lot of communication issues in the past too. He said to me that whenever we talk I would hold on to things forever and bring them up later so he would get tired of hearing it and walk off. How can we turn things around to make them better for the both of us.
smudge21 Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 You need to both accept your problems and issues and then go see a counsellor, someone who can really ask the right questions and see what the problem is between you two. If you both want it to work then you both need to take this step. That said, sometimes no matter how important something is, or how much we want something to happen, sometimes things just don't work out they way we want and we have to accept that. As tough as it would be on the children to have mother and father seperate, you've got to realise how tough it will also be for the children to see the problems you two are having. Believe me, kids understand this stuff and take it on board. Despite your own feelings for this man, you have to do what is right for you and your kids. Same for him.
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