mike588 Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 (edited) In a previous post I mentioned that my now ex g/f dumped me for her ex boyfriend. We were together for 10 months they were together 14 months. I treated her so very, very well, wined and dine her,,the sex was fantastic, not just my side, really! She told me numerious times how happy she was, she loved me, etc. etc. etc. Were both in our 40s. She broke up with him,, 2nd time (before we connected)and told me he did'nt meet her needs/ want's including sex and they fought alot. It's been 5 weeks now. The 1st week I would of taken her back in a heart beat, 3rd week not so sure, 5th week NO WAY.To much damage done, it could never be the same. I'm moving on! Question now is: After breaking up with him twice before we met then having me in her life for 10 months,,and treating her so well,she felt so loved etc. will she compare me to him now they are back together??? I really don't care but I'm so very,very curious if she will see the differance now between what she has now and what she had,, Me,,. will she want to come back to me.Hope not. Things, feelings have changed. Even though I really dont want her back , I'm serious!! I'm just seeking other peoples experiences, feedback on this. Already changed my phone # trying to block any Facebook contact. Do they,,,, will they compare??? What do you think?? Thanks again! Edited September 5, 2011 by mike588
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 Question now is: After breaking up with him twice before we met then having me in her life for 10 months,,and treating her so well,she felt so loved etc. will she compare me to him now they are back together??? It's human nature to compare similarities and differences between everything. I would assume that she is comparing all the ways that he is better for her than you are, because they are in the honeymoon phase. The honeymoon phase shouldn't last very long because it's an ex of hers, and they've already been through the phases of a relationship. After the honeymoon phase is over she may do some re-evaluating and start comparing all the ways that you are better for her than he is. But also keep in mind that she may also jump to a new target. I really don't care but I'm so very,very curious if she will see the differance now between what she has now and what she had,, Me,,. will she want to come back to me. Well, nobody can really give you a solid answer on this one. She may come back, she may not. She did go back to a previous ex which may mean your chances of her coming back are somewhat increased but I wouldn't put too much thought into it. You said you wouldn't take her back, so her coming back would only be a revenge tactic for you... That's immature. Be the better person and take the high road.
wilsonx Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 Question now is: After breaking up with him twice before we met then having me in her life for 10 months,,and treating her so well,she felt so loved etc. will she compare me to him now they are back together??? ! If you are truly moving on this question does not matter. It serves no purpose. Me or anyone else answering this question only serves to give you hope and keep you from truly moving on. I will answer your question though. Look at the pattern, history repeats itself. She left him twice, got back together with him twice. Do you want her to leave him and come back to you for a second time. Only for her to leave you for the second time and go to the next guy and make the same complaints about you. One thing you should reflect on is not take someone on the rebound like this, if you think about it they have no concept of what they want. I do not know what she wants, you dont know what she wants, she doesnt know what she wants. That's why she keeps jumping around. Now the question is, do you know what you want? Do you want to be a part of this cycle? If not don't make you a part of the next person's cycle.
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