folieadeux Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 I'm back with a much overdue update! My SO and I got engaged last month and we will officially have the distance resolved next year. I hope all is well with everyone here and I look forward to catching up with all of you in the very near future. There is hope for us all. :bunny:
befreckled Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 I'm back with a much overdue update! My SO and I got engaged last month and we will officially have the distance resolved next year. I hope all is well with everyone here and I look forward to catching up with all of you in the very near future. There is hope for us all. :bunny: woot woot happy dance! It must be sooo lovely to have an end date!
Cathster Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 Congratulations, what wonderful news! It must feel so good to have an end in sight.
HeavenOrHell Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 Great to hear from you!! So happy to hear the distance will be resolved next year I'm back with a much overdue update! My SO and I got engaged last month and we will officially have the distance resolved next year. I hope all is well with everyone here and I look forward to catching up with all of you in the very near future. There is hope for us all. :bunny:
Author folieadeux Posted September 5, 2011 Author Posted September 5, 2011 Thanks so much everyone; it's surreal at this point and still hasn't hit me haha. How's everyone been????
HeavenOrHell Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 Aw, you so deserve it Things were looking good for me and my partner, he hoped to transfer with his job over here next year or the year after, but we raised our hopes too much, his manager said it's not possible to move him for the foreseeable future because of financial difficulties, they've transferred people before, but that was when things were better financially We were both gutted and weren't sure whether we could continue with no end in sight. He doesn't feel able to give up the security of his job and look for something else as things are so unstable job wise these days, and I understand that, same as he understands my reasons for not moving there. We had a very rocky time while we came to terms with it and worked out how and whether to continue, it was awful. He said he'll move but it's just that now he doesn't know when. I feel it could be never if things don't change financially. I'm aiming to go over there more to see him, so we can meet every 6 weeks, rather than every 8, but not sure how long we can afford it for. He's a bit worried we'll decide in a year or two we can't deal with the distance and we'll split and we'll have invested more into us emotionally and it will be even harder to call it a day. But there's no guarantees in any r/ship is there. We've decided to give it a go and see how things go, at least we'll have given it our best shot, no matter what happens. Realistically though I doubt many r/ships work out if there's no end in sight. It's just, how do you walk away when you love someone that much Thanks so much everyone; it's surreal at this point and still hasn't hit me haha. How's everyone been????
Author folieadeux Posted September 5, 2011 Author Posted September 5, 2011 I'm so sorry to hear that HOH. I really do think that once the economy gets better that he'll be able to find something. It may take a year or more, but it'll happen. I know it's extremely difficult, but you guys have made it this far and neither one of you wants to walk away...that's saying something BIG right there. You're right, there are no guarantees in any relationship, but at least you have more of a plan now. You know that he's willing to move to your country...that's half the battle right there. Now, it's just a matter of setting a date. Has he tried applying for new jobs in your area now while he's still employed? That's always another option too. He can schedule interviews when he's visiting you. That would be really good all around if you could schedule visits every six weeks...that's what my SO and I have been doing lately and it's made a world of difference.
Els Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Hi, folie! Glad to hear from you, and even better to hear your news Things have been going the same as usual for me; it has been over a year (I know everyone says this, but damn, time moves fast) since we closed the distance, and all has been well recently. I guess that's why I haven't really been on LS much, only checking back occasionally to see how old friends are doing. All the best!
wild_urge Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 I actually thought about you all the time you were missing and was wondering what happened, because you were so active when I joined the forum and then you disappeared, I'm glad that you found some time to give us an update, I am starting to feel some of the frequent users as friends I worry when they disappear even for a few days Not much has changed lately, just had a great summer together. I'm happy to hear that you are closing the distance soon, keep us updated, it gives us all hope !
Author folieadeux Posted September 20, 2011 Author Posted September 20, 2011 Thanks Wild; glad to see you're doing well.
TokyoG33kyGal Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 congrats! do you have wedding plans already?
Author folieadeux Posted September 27, 2011 Author Posted September 27, 2011 Thanks!!!!!!!! Tokyo -- We haven't set an official date yet but the wedding will be late 2012/early 2013 (we're waiting for him to get his citizenship) and I'll be making the move next year for sure. We're having a small ceremony close to where we'll be living with just us and our parents as it's proven impossible to get everyone together from abroad. I couldn't be happier though and just want to do what's easiest at this point because honestly my priority is just ending this pesky distance! How have you been? I see you changed your location to Utah.
TokyoG33kyGal Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 that's great. we also had a small ceremony since my parents can't come. it was great since i was able to have a DIY wedding hehehe... yeah, i got here in July. happened so fast because of the earthquakes in Japan. so glad to see you though and stories ending in 'happily ever after'
Author folieadeux Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 Congrats Tokyo!!!! Yeah, the DYI weddings are really the way to go! I'm so happy for you and it's great to see some good news added to the boards. :bunny:
HeavenOrHell Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Thank you I hit a bit of a slump a few says after he left, usually happens Still getting to bed late, and annoyed with myself because of it, just want to stay up and talk to him And not go to bed cos he's not in it It's ok though, I'm doing fine really Time to plan our next visit, hopefully end of Oct. Yes, you're right, half the battle was not knowing if he really wanted/intended to move and he obviously did want to. Shame he loves his job so much Joke No, he doesn't feel able to look for other jobs, he can't give up the security of his current job, he said his job would be hard to replace in so many ways, he has the perfect job for him basically. So, he's not looking for anything else, which is why there's no end in sight and might never be, I just don't know. We had a date in mind, before the job transfer fell through, end of next year, or sometime the following year, but that's all out the window. We can't make another date as he's staying put for the foreseeable, and so am I How are you doing? Just realised I put this in your thread by mistake, rather than my 'A Little Update' thread! I'll put it there too! I'm so sorry to hear that HOH. I really do think that once the economy gets better that he'll be able to find something. It may take a year or more, but it'll happen. I know it's extremely difficult, but you guys have made it this far and neither one of you wants to walk away...that's saying something BIG right there. You're right, there are no guarantees in any relationship, but at least you have more of a plan now. You know that he's willing to move to your country...that's half the battle right there. Now, it's just a matter of setting a date. Has he tried applying for new jobs in your area now while he's still employed? That's always another option too. He can schedule interviews when he's visiting you. That would be really good all around if you could schedule visits every six weeks...that's what my SO and I have been doing lately and it's made a world of difference.
HeavenOrHell Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 That's great news! Congratulations!! Great to see some good news in the LDR forum that's great. we also had a small ceremony since my parents can't come. it was great since i was able to have a DIY wedding hehehe... yeah, i got here in July. happened so fast because of the earthquakes in Japan. so glad to see you though and stories ending in 'happily ever after'
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