dgj2301 Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 (edited) I have been seeing a girl for the past 3.5 months. We got along, hung out at least 5 days a week at first. There were times she wouldnt return calls or texts. I made a move about 4 Weeks after our like 10th date but she rejected it. I totally respected her, backed of. A few dates later she makes a move on me, we have sex. Things start to get serious. There were still times where she would never return calls. So for like 7 Weeks we are seeing eachother 5 to 7 times a week, she said she was only seeing me. She did mention friends. We become official, she met my family and friends but run into problems so she wants to slow down, really wants things to work out. There were times I wanted to break it off but we didnt. Well, one day I call her, she accidentaly answers then hangs up. I call her back and she said to call her later because she is busy. I here a lot of noise and a guy talking to her. I asked what she was doimg, she said she was having dinner. I asked if she was on a date and she said no. the next day I asked again and she said she was. I asked her how many guys has she dated since we started dating and she did not want to answer. She said it didn't matter because she it didn't change the fact that she loved me. I asked how many guys was she sleeping with while with me, she said just me. She said she couldn't get over her ex and didn't know how to deal with it. Another thing is that she was jealous of other females and didnt like any of my female friends, yet she had guy friends. I felt, betrayed, heartbroken, used. I cut her off since then. Bad part is that we work together. So I am assuming that she managed to squeeze in her dates and was the reason she would ignore my calls. I don't know if any of her feeling were real. I miss her and want her so bad but can't because of what she did. Should I feel hurt? Edited September 5, 2011 by dgj2301
Bryanp Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 So she was dating different guys behind your back while you were in a relationship with her. What more needs to be said?
bluenightowl Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 She said she couldn't get over her ex and didn't know how to deal with it. Should I feel hurt? Yes you should feel hurt. She isn't the person you were expecting and she is not ready for a relationship (with you). Its interesting, I suggest looking back at this post 1 year from now. It will be so clear to you then, but right now your emotions are all wrapped in this situation. Its good you cut ties.
Author dgj2301 Posted September 5, 2011 Author Posted September 5, 2011 Thanks for the replies. Obviously she wasn't ready. I probably pushed her away but she could have been more honest. She got me good. I just hope I don't make the same mistake of falling for another like her. I should have seen all the signs.
olivec Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 Thanks for the replies. Obviously she wasn't ready. I probably pushed her away but she could have been more honest. She got me good. I just hope I don't make the same mistake of falling for another like her. I should have seen all the signs. Man i know how you feel i was with my girl for 6 months but she broke it off with me because she wasnt ready for anything serious. then like a fool i tryed getting her back and it never worked. then today i see pics of her on facebook kissing another guy. up to this point i was starting to feel better, but now i feel like **** all over again.
Author dgj2301 Posted September 5, 2011 Author Posted September 5, 2011 After not speaking to her for a week, she called me with a private number. I don't know what she wanted but she said she was in front of my house. I laughed at her because I an in Laughlin for the weekend. She was all asking if I was with another girl or if I was drinking. I cut her off because I was busy and haven't answered any calls after that.
Osiris1234 Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 Once I saw 10+ before getting in her pants, I knew something was up. Usually it only takes by the 3 or 4th date in most cases to get sex.
sadcalifornian Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 It's obvious that she is not really committed to you. She finds you the most promising one and does not want to lose you, but she is not ready to fully commit. She still wants to see what's out there. Well, you invested 3 1/2 months with her, and it's not like you guys are married or even engaged. So, just dump her and move on. Her premarital behaviors are a good indicator of how she will act in M later on. This girl is non-commital type and does not embrace the idea of serious and exclusive relationship yet. Also, if this is any indication of her general character makeup, she certainly is not a good marriage material either. To sum it up, she is no good for you. Just move on.
michelangelo Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 You wanted a one-man woman and she is a woman wanting to date around and lie to the one-woman man because she likes the attention such a man brings to her in addition to the others she is dating. And by dating I mean having sex with. You did the right thing walking away.
Author dgj2301 Posted September 8, 2011 Author Posted September 8, 2011 At work she tried really hard to talk to me but I told her I had nothing to say and didn't want to hear what she had to say. I don't need her, I have plenty of options.
seibert253 Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 At work she tried really hard to talk to me but I told her I had nothing to say and didn't want to hear what she had to say. I don't need her, I have plenty of options. You did perfect with this. Continue to drive on and move forward. Ms. Right is out there.
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