icbtih Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 (edited) Hello, About 5 weeks ago my boyfriend of over 2 years, who I love with all my heart, broke up with me because he was unhappy. He says that there was noting in our relationship that cause this, nothing he did or nothing I did he was just unhappy. He just graduated from college, is working full time, still living with his parents, and exhausted in general. He says that although he loves me he needs to find out why he is unhappy and does not feel like he can do that in a relationship with me or anyone else. He also says that he has been feeling this way since about May which is when he graduated and started working full time and he apologized for not letting me know about it and takes full blame. Our relationship was a very good one in general, we rarely argued and never had any big fights. We got along very well and loved each other very much, this is something that i know for a fact. Over the past few months I have also been a bit more stressed and I know I complained/nagged a bit more than usual and at first i wondered if that wore him down to the point of break up. I did however own up to these actions and apologized for them because I thought this may have been the true reason for the break up. He says that although he did not like that I was complaining more that it had no deciding factor in our breakup at all. When he came over to get his stuff 3 weeks ago we thanked each other for a such a good relationship and I told him that if finds his happiness or what he is looking for and in time can reconsider us I would love that and he agreed with me. I feel as if he was very sincere about all of this and these are his true reasons. I am just having a very difficult time dealing with this and I am really hoping that by giving him some space to be alone he may change his mind since our relationship was not really the cause of the breakup. I am not contacting him at all as of right now to give him space, its been 3 hard weeks. I have started therapy to help me deal with my emotions and loss and I am trying my best to keep myself busy and active. My therapist as well as many other people think that this is just bad timing because he graduated and that is a very trying and scary time for people. I hurt all the time and I miss him very much and I am still completely in love with him so it is just making this very hard for me to get through. I really have hope that in time he may change his mind but I am scared I am holding onto something that will never come back. Please give me any opinions/advice you have. I know ultimately I must respect his decision but its just so hard. Edited September 4, 2011 by icbtih
PositiveNegative Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 I don't have any advice expect telling you that you are not alone. Your situation sounds very much like the one I just went through. My girlfriend of 1 1/2 years broke up with me Friday just realizing that she wanted to experience more in life and I just couldn't give that to her right now. Bad timing as you said. We also had a great relationship and were happy for the duration of it. We both admitted that it would be hard to find substitutes for each other, but she still needs to allow herself to look and only when she truly realizes this she will be ready for me. I too am scared of holding on to her because deep down inside I fear that I will always want her. I think that they just need time to grow, it's not uncommon. If he truly loves you, then someday he will do whatever it takes to get you back.
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