Black women dating white men/men of races other than black

[Lionblue92]

Im a black woman and I have never dated a white man before. I am only 18 so I have time. But I just want opinions from white men, men of other races, or anyone/any black woman who has dated a man of a different race. I guess specifically white men because I see that combination of couple rarely. WHat has been your experience in compatibility with a man of another race. And men, what is your view on dating a black woman, like a serious relationship. Do you expect them to look a certain way? Act similiar to you? Really outgoing personalities? I recently read this article on black women who settle with dating only their own race. Thanks in advance!

 

http://www.essence.com/2011/08/09/real-talk-are-white-men-the-answer/

[carhill]

And men, what is your view on dating a black woman, like a serious relationship?

Historically, I've had no issues and have approached a number of black women whom I found attractive. To date no reciprocity.

Do you expect them to look a certain way?[/Quote] So far, there's really been no definable pattern, meaning the approaches have been to a wide range of physical appearances.

Act similar to you?

No different than any other woman. I've yet to meet a woman who acts similar to me, and maybe that's a good thing

Really outgoing personalities?

Most I've approached have been somewhat reserved and were ladies employed as professionals, meaning generally white collar, working in finance. My locale doesn't have a large black community, at least not that I generally interact with. We tend to have more Sikhs, Southeast Asians and Mexicans here.

 

My first impression, when opening the article, was that the young lady had a nice smile and I liked her brightly colored dress, something I became accustomed to when in Africa, and that the dress's color matched her bike. That gives you some insight into my personality

 

I would suggest taking the opportunity, as a young woman, to meet and date a wide variety of men and experience how that goes. You may find men of your own culture to be the best 'fit', or might find other experiences, and men, more compatible. Only way to know is to try. Good luck

Edited September 4, 2011 by carhill

[Lionblue92]

Historically, I've had no issues and have approached a number of black women whom I found attractive. To date no reciprocity. So far, there's really been no definable pattern, meaning the approaches have been to a wide range of physical appearances. No different than any other woman. I've yet to meet a woman who acts similar to me, and maybe that's a good thing ;)Most I've approached have been somewhat reserved and were ladies employed as professionals, meaning generally white collar, working in finance. My locale doesn't have a large black community, at least not that I generally interact with. We tend to have more Sikhs, Southeast Asians and Mexicans here.

 

My first impression, when opening the article, was that the young lady had a nice smile and I liked her brightly colored dress, something I became accustomed to when in Africa, and that the dress's color matched her bike. That gives you some insight into my personality

 

I would suggest taking the opportunity, as a young woman, to meet and date a wide variety of men and experience how that goes. You may find men of your own culture to be the best 'fit', or might find other experiences, and men, more compatible. Only way to know is to try. Good luck [/QU

 

 

Thats a pretty interesting way of looking at it. Thanks!

[sm1tten]

I'm black. I've dated black guys, latinos, and white guys - mostly the last. In general, all men have acted with and treated me about the same - I think it's because I tend to be attracted to the same general set of personality characteristics irregardless of physical looks - but there have been some who were more attracted to the novelty and/or were disappointed to find that I was nothing like what they imagined. I've gotten some looks and I've heard some whispers but experienced no overt hostility regarding these relationships from strangers or friends.

 

I would advise not having the expectation of more successful relationships just because one is dating a ____ man. Those things have little do to with color and everything to do with character. It's true that for me, as an educated black woman I come into far greater contact with white men that I consider to be complementary to me but that doesn't mean that white men are better partners.

[Feelin Frisky]

I loved and lived together with a black female for five years. I've been very taken by others during my life. But it was for one thing--the uniqueness of each's manner and personality. I have no preference for race. Each person is a unique human being and I'm turned off almost instantly by anyone who feels the need to put on a big front and many black women do just that as do many black guys. I have no advice really other than if you are attracted to and want a relationship with a white guy--one who doesn't talk like emenem, wear a bandana under a sideways baseball hat with the size sticker still on it--don't try to be white or black. Just be as sincerely you as possible. That's all anyone can ask for and that's what's most essential for real respect and maybe love.

[Zed]

There just like any other man. They have quirks, likes and dislikes, but just be prepared to deal with entrenched stereotypes and assumptions about black women, that usually include being loud, ghetto, the perception that they are so physically different to everyone else, obese, etc.

 

As long as you remain unique, positive and open to all races and not singling out just white men you will be fine. At your age , you should be having fun. so try not to focus on jsut one race. I have found the more unusual and varied your hobbies and interests, the more you are likely to meet guys of different races that may like you back.

 

Just be aware that there is not going to be a stampede beating down your door like asian or latinas based on the stereotypes and the fact that there is still some negative pressure not to date black, depending on where you live.

[muse08]

Ive dated outside my race. They were both white men (Italian). I met the last guy on an interracial dating website. He was very attractive,witty, down to earth, respectful, intelligent and hip (in his awareness, not like eminem or any other person trying to be who they are not). This guy was kind of a brainiac actually and would always be himself. Characteristics which I prefer regardless of race.

 

Our chemistry was ridiculous. We felt very comfortable around one another with very few lulls in our conversion. Great thing!

 

We would discuss anything. And as a black female you know how big of an issue hair can be. He would tell me that of course he likes hair, but most importantly he does not like perms, mainly because of the smell and because it's not natural. For me, that was important due to the fact that I'm natural and have not put chemicals in my hair for over 10 years. (For those of you who dont know the effects of perms on black hair, I'll just say perms make our hair very weak over a period of time smell horrible when processing, and many of us use perms because we're not comfortable enough to show the works who we ready are, i.e. society's standards.) However, I love my hair and so did he. He also loved my conversation, my talents, my hips, my lips and just the various things that made me who I am.

We were long distance so that came with it's challenges, but we went out several times and were all over each other always. So much so that we (I) nev..er noticed anyone staring, etc. Dont get me wrong he wasnt perfect and neither was I.

 

Enjoy learning about & dating different races& cultures. Be yourself!

Edited September 5, 2011 by muse08