sun_moon Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 So after posting dozens of messages and songs, I just cant seem to get out of this mood. I'm a little reminiscent, a little lonely, and just cant get out of feeling this way. This too shall pass, I know it. So, all posts welcome. Having a good day, bad day, an ok day? Post your day's events here.
reimeivn Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 I had a bad day. for some reasons I saw the ex two freaking times. He looked waaaay better than when he ever was. I thought he was really good looking, then I hated myself for feeling that way. Why cant you just choose to erase the memories and choose the love somebody else instead. It got better though. After a cry party, I feel that it is not relevant again. He is not the same person anymore. I would never date a guy who dresses up like that. I dont know why, but he is just untrustworthy looking that way.
Nohbody Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 Just another day, here. Hope you feel better.
PelicanPete Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 Everyday is a great day in its own light. Mine was pretty busy but I feel rewarded from giving it my all, now I can just relax for the evening. I had been a bit anxious lately since college is starting this week. It's at a new university and I have to commute since I can't afford dorms and I have to keep working through school. On top of that, the courses I'm taking I'm not exactly thrilled about but are required for my major. I seemed to have defeated my anxiety about school today though, when I realized that it was stemming from trying to convince myself that I will enjoy this semester. When I finally admitted to myself that this semester is going to be crappy, I felt better. There was no longer conflict inside of myself, or anxiety about what was going to happen, I feel better knowing its going to suck, because then there are no longer unanswered questions floating around in my head . Who knows, maybe this will be helpful towards what you're stuck on
Tybalt Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 Yes, my ex sent me a message today telling me how great I was, a good person and unbelievable lover, and how he is sorry things didn't work out. Yet he is the one who dumped me. That is messing with my head and setting me back just a tad. The guy is really smart so he has to know he is stirring things up.
ohio1387 Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 having a terrible, wretched, and depressing day here. ive complained enough about what happened already in my own thread, so i wont drag it out here. but i was right about losing the last close friend i had because i screwed everything up with a girl i liked who didnt like me. it sounds so melodramatic to say i feel like im being crushed, but i truly think this world would be better off without me complaining about it all the time. but what else can i do? if i try to hold it all in i absolutely will go insane. not that id ever actually do anything to remove myself. im a coward, too. and as much as i seem self-focused, i know doing something like that would destroy my mother and sister.
jenjen83 Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 I've had a bit of a rough day thinking about my ex but I know it'll pass and I'll feel better. That's what I always try to remember.
Author sun_moon Posted September 4, 2011 Author Posted September 4, 2011 Thanks for you comments and sharing. PelicanPete, more people work and go to school than you think. Dont worry, it actually makes time go faster, but I know its not easy. I had to do the same thing myself. I am feeling a little better now, mostly because I'm about to go exercise and meet some people. Tybalt yeah ex's suck, I experienced something similar a while back. Dont let it weigh you down too much, he's having a week moment just like you may have been, the best thing to do is to let yourself feel it but dont dwell, move on from the message and keep your NC. Ohio- I'm sorry you're in pain, just remember in time it gets so much better, we are all living testament of it, hold on to that hope and let her go. I totally dislike Sunday's but its ok. Keep the posts coming, all thoughts welcome.
Graceful Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 Hope it's okay to say I had a nice day today -- sun was shining, and I took a little road trip to visit some special people. I blasted some music in my car, and had a chance to do some thinking -- and there was no traffic because it was the middle day of the long weekend (very pleasant). I used to find long weekends very hard to get through when I was at the height of my breakup. And it upset me that I could not appreciate that extra day off, too. But that has passed for me, and it will pass for you, just when you least expect it. Also, I read some stories today about people who lost loved ones in 9-11, and it was very inspiring and sweet to read of their strength and determination, despite such great losses. I will not be doing any shopping this weekend, unless I go to the Body Shop tomorrow (do you shop there, sun?) That place is one of my vices. And I will also take a boot camp class in the morning, and sweat my way through to the end of 90 solid minutes using sheer grit! Frankly, you sound very upbeat lately here, so take this little setback for what it is, a very small setback along the way. Treat yourself to something tomorrow and know that the feeling of sadness will pass soon. You have my support. Keep the posts coming, all thoughts welcome.
farmgirl7 Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 I haven't had a great day...very vivid dream this morning about him and the way it made me feel is just hanging around. Facebook said my status this day last year was "I am so in love with my perfect boy!" and I've msged 4 different friends inane things just so I don't msg him instead...I wish I could make the constant need to have him around stop. He wants to be my 'friend' and I'd like that too...but know I cant do it if I want it like this. I'm going to be so hurt when he finds someone else.Just wish I could stop thinking about it all.
olivec Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 (edited) I haven't had a great day...very vivid dream this morning about him and the way it made me feel is just hanging around. Facebook said my status this day last year was "I am so in love with my perfect boy!" and I've msged 4 different friends inane things just so I don't msg him instead...I wish I could make the constant need to have him around stop. He wants to be my 'friend' and I'd like that too...but know I cant do it if I want it like this. I'm going to be so hurt when he finds someone else.Just wish I could stop thinking about it all. I know how you feel farmgirl i had a rough day to and it was due to stupid facebook. anyway i blocked my ex months ago after the breakup which was 4 months ago. anyway i was doing ok until one of her friends who i forgot to unfriend posted facebook pics and ofcourse my ex gf who looked soo good was all in the pics including kissing some guy. i hurt soo bad i just got really upset. i just feel like a loser all over again. i just want the pain to go away. plus i've had like 4 beers soo far tonight. hopefully it'll make the pain go away faster i don't know. i just feel lost. Edited September 5, 2011 by olivec
Author sun_moon Posted September 5, 2011 Author Posted September 5, 2011 Hope it's okay to say I had a nice day today -- sun was shining, and I took a little road trip to visit some special people. I blasted some music in my car, and had a chance to do some thinking -- and there was no traffic because it was the middle day of the long weekend (very pleasant). I used to find long weekends very hard to get through when I was at the height of my breakup. And it upset me that I could not appreciate that extra day off, too. But that has passed for me, and it will pass for you, just when you least expect it. I will not be doing any shopping this weekend, unless I go to the Body Shop tomorrow (do you shop there, sun?) That place is one of my vices. And I will also take a boot camp class in the morning, and sweat my way through to the end of 90 solid minutes using sheer grit! Frankly, you sound very upbeat lately here, so take this little setback for what it is, a very small setback along the way. Treat yourself to something tomorrow and know that the feeling of sadness will pass soon. You have my support. Grace of course its great to hear you had a good day. I like to hear positive stories, it will help me stay positive. Yeah, I'm craving a trip with the breeze blowing and blasting some music, but since I'm in the deep south with a freakin drought, its not gonna happen soon. However, the heat index is no longer like 110 deg F, we finally got some relief and its in the 80s, can I get a woohoo??? Honestly I always mix up the Body Shop with Bed, Bath, and Beyond, wait which one is the same company as Express? See, I dont know lol. I can tell you, that the lotion, good smelly place, which ever one it is, I go nuts during their semi annual sale 75% off stuff, I mean you can never have too much yummy smelling hand soap, etc. Or at least I keep telling myself that!!! haha So my vice unfortunately isnt really that, its much worse, it's COFFEE!!!!! :laugh::laugh::laugh: I have to have it! I love the flavors and the aroma of a fresh brew, and I'm a Starbucks Junkie, I know I wish I wasn't. Can you tell I've had a few cups? lol Thank you for saying that, Yeah I do over all feel loads better but I have small set backs regularly and I have grown to accept them as part of my healing process. i know right i hate that about facebook Guess what I realized about 30 minutes ago? Thank god I'm off FB. Our exes are going through the same torment. Muwahahha, you dont think that does something to them? I do. Especially the kind that bounced into a new relationship or rebound because they are running like hell and avoiding their issues and the pain. SLAP, thank you FB, even though I have a love hate relationship with you, I actually take pleasure in knowing they are getting reminders of what once was. The runners and re-bounders cant run now, its in their news feed. HAHAHHAHA.
Author sun_moon Posted September 17, 2011 Author Posted September 17, 2011 So instead of making a new thread I will just add to this. The weekend is here, hurrah! Lately I've been fine, only because I have been busy, I have a few things planned with my friend. So it's been like 6.5 months or 4.5 months (truly over with NC), and I'm much better than day one. Wondering when I will stop thinking of him randomly and missing him. Its better than thinking all the time, the sleepless nights and the crying sessions, dont miss those, glad that is over. When does the 'over him' happen? These are my early morning thoughts for the day, off to work I go. Post your thoughts and plans guys.
jenjen83 Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 Glad to see you are doing better sun_moon I've had a bad kinda week...broke NC but I'm trying to get strong again.
ScienceGal Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 I am having an ok day. Cleaning right now, then going to go for a jog, then going to do groceries. All simple tasks to fill my day. And then there is tonight... I have a date tonight (3rd date), but I am not feeling all that excited about it. I hate still having feelings tied up in my ex, but that's just how it is going to be for who knows how long... Autumn is my favorite season, but this one doesn't look like it's going to be so wonderful
broken-and-lost Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 (edited) I had a bit of crappy day today,went to the bank to withdraw some cash only to stop at traffic lights to have my ex waiting to cross the road it was one of them duel lights so we were both stuck there for 2 mins she looked over a few times and had another look when i was finally able to put my foot down. sucks running into her over the weekends when i've got nothing much to do apart from going to gym. but hope people are doing better on weekend Edited September 17, 2011 by broken-and-lost
PelicanPete Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 All flowers in time sun_moon! Just take it day by day and add some flavor to your life. Finding some new music to listen to is a good way to progress away from your ex I had a good day today. Arrived early at work with that morning chill in the air, so all us Canadians were dressed in flanel . Fueled some boats, had a deep philosophical conversation with a co-worker over 3x my age, and took a nap when I got home. I have to develop a research experiment for a psych class which is going to take a lot of work, and I haven't even gotten started. Too busy over thinking my initial idea, compared to doing trial/error which is probably more beneficial.
shortee143 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 I didnt have too bad a day, but the last week has been up and down. IDK what it is...something about Autumn makes me think of romance haha cooler weather, beautiful scenery as the leaves change, etc...it just makes me feel lonely, bc last year at this time I was with him, and now he is with someone new. I am on my way to healing, but there are those days where I have setbacks too, but thank the lord the awful stage is behind me
Josephina Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Today is a semi-crappy day. As a fairly new poster to LS, I find I come here mostly when I'm having a bit of a down day. X has the kids out of town for the night, so I spent my Sat evening at the grocery store, lol. I think I need a gym membership!
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