ced77 Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 I will post my original post bellow but this is still an on going saga.. I have been with my boyfriend for over two years and lived together for ove one. 3 Weeks ago out of the blue he wanted space! A week passed and we met up the following weekend and despite him hlding my hand and cuddling me I was given two options. The first was that I could end it and that would be my choice, the second was that he could have a month on his own to clear his head. That is the option I chose but it has been terrible. The next day I asked him what he would have done if I had chosen to end things and he said he hadn't thought of that. From what I understand that is exactly what he has done, he has stayed at home, gone to work, gone to his mum's and gone to the gym and that is it. I have aske him if he misses me and he says he does. Everyday he asks what I am doing, who I am with and where I am which in some ways is not his business but I tell him as I don't want to play games and have nothing to hide. We have arranged to meet up this saturday and I am hoping this will be a good chance to spend some time together without too much heavy talk and tears! I really want to resolve things and I am prepared to take things step by step but could really do with some outside opinions / ideas We met up yesterday and managed to do a lot of talking. He admited that he felt I needed to calm down a bit and that I had been getting at him. In turn I explained that sometimes this was purely out feeling that I was second best to everyone especially his Family. I never had any issues with him seeing his family but I felt he resented me for not seeing more of them. In turn he thought I was trying to stop him. (Big communication breakdown.) We ended up spending over 6 hours talking and having time together. He also explained that he knew he must have feelings for me otherwise everything would be very easy. I asked him if this meant things were over and his answer was "It's not that simple" I went back to the flat to grab a couple of things I needed and all my things were as I left them a month ago, my hand cream was on the table, my dressging gown and slippers in the bedroom. Even the note I sent him 2 wks ago saying how I felt and what problems we could resolve was by the bed. I have asked him if he can give me a month to think and also that way he can resolve his confusion. However when I say space I mean it and there will be no texts at all. He has agreed to do this as he still didn't know what to do. Have I done the right thing and also what now??? All I know is that I am hoping with no texts it will bring it home to him and then we can start to talk and resolve.
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