peterstreet Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 Hi all, Ex finished with me a week and a half ago, and although it wasnt totally unexpected, like most people i genuinely expected us to have a future together. Was by far the best relationship i'd ever had, although it was always going to be difficult as she is 19 and i am 28. I've been NC for 7 days now, I know that despite my urges to contact her its best not to. I have found one of her Wii games that i need to give her back, and also all the photos we took over the 13 months we were together are all on my pc. Should i put these on CD and drop them through her door? I kind of feel like they were as much hers as mine, it just happened to be taken with my camera. Is that breaking NC? advise appreciated Thanks
fauxleather Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 Ask yourself first what you really want to achieve from doing all that.
Author peterstreet Posted September 4, 2011 Author Posted September 4, 2011 Ask yourself first what you really want to achieve from doing all that. I guess i just feel its her right to have photos of the things we did throughout our relationship. She made a comment a few months ago that she didnt have any photos and would be sad if she didnt have any if we ever broke up. (she was probably planning it all along?!)
Moetato Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 If you have a mutual friend/ connection, you can give them the Wii stuff to them to give to her. I honestly would see the picture thing as breach of NC. It's not worth it. I can relate to what you're feeling right now. My relationship went the same route.
M2155 Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 I did return my ex's stuff and some momentos but I just dropped it off and didn't talk to him but it was immediate. With pictures you don't want to look like you've been looking at them for a week just thinking which sounds desperate. I would wait till she asks. It's wierd. She has the memories, trust me. And if she's trying to get over you, she's not looking for pictures.
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 The only exception to giving pictures back, and this is debatable, is if the pictures were professionally taken and developed. I gave my ex back the pics that we had done but it was within a week following the breakup and I gave them back at the same time that returned all of her other crap. I don't think you can honestly say to yourself, or anyone, that giving the pics back is not one last attempt at reconciliation.
PositiveNegative Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 My ex went with my family to Hawaii a month before we broke up. She has a ton of pictures that I never got. As tempting as it was for me to ask her for them I knew it was just not worth the pain to see them.
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