Buttercup84 Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 So about 6 years ago I met this guy , fancied him but we lost touch . 4 years ago via Facebook we got in touch again and went on a date , then weeks later slept together .lost touch again , he was having gambling problems too . So six weeks ago the man I wanted to marry dumped me . I'm not really coping and today he said he would be very upset If I met someone and the thought makes him ill . Today the other guy chatted with me on Facebook after I posted a picture of me all glamed up . We had a polite chit chat , he knows I'm really hurting and that I want to be single . Also knows that im not into flings . He asked me out for dinner , I said yes but just want it to be as friends . I made it clear that I'm not interested in men right now . I thought getting asked out will help me heal but it hurts so much . What my ex and I had was so social and I just want to heal and be alone . It's either my ex or no one . I just love him too much. I don't get asked out much , or ever so I dint know how to make it clear that I just want to be mates . He said he has always been very fond of me and that im very beautiful . I don't want to say I'm not into him when he does not see this as a date as I don't want to look like a bit j .I just don't want anyone else . Thanks to everyone who replied to my other posts , I'll reply back asap xx
Author Buttercup84 Posted September 4, 2011 Author Posted September 4, 2011 That's special not social !! iPhone !
LN99 Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 I just got out of a 4 yr relationship about 5 weeks ago. I know how you feel. The thought of dating someone else makes me nauseated and I just don't feel up to it. I think when you date someone for that long and get that attached, it takes some time to move on.(Very hard when you and your ex still live together...trust me!) I have been hit on and asked out since my relationship ended as well. I try to make it very clear I'm only interested in friendship and taking things super slow. But even so, I just don't feel like trying. So I totally can relate to how your feeling. I asked a few of my friends what I should do about these feelings? They all told me to take some time and just be single. Find out what makes me truly happy. (I seriously don't know if I remember anymore!) Plus I was in my mid 20s then ...and now I just turned 30 and I feel completely behind on everything! It sucks! But I think they were on to something. Time. I need that time to heal from my previous relationship and time before I feel like "getting back out there" yet again. Trust me, I'm not looking forward to it, but hopefully someday it won't feel like such a challenge. Think about giving yourself "Time" also. Best of luck to you!
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