loverboy1984 Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 So I went against everyones advice here and texted my EX happy birthday. she broke up with me due to GIGS 5 months ago and we have been in NC besides her coming to pick her stuff up last month ( with me leaving it out for her and not being home). Her tone from her text have been cold, distant, civil yet nice. So I thought since we dated 6yrs and I dont hate her despite the significant hurt she caused me, it couldnt hurt to recognize her birthday. I told my self Im doing it because Im a nice guy and Im not doing it for a response. So Im at a wedding, really drunk, and I hear the bride and groom talking about their 5 yr relationship and moments they had and it made me nostalgic and very emotional. I stepped out and went for a walk on the beach in the whirlwind of my emotions I decided to text her happy birthday. I said: Happy Birthday! proud of all that you have accomplished and love you. She replied: Thanks! I hope your transition to NY goes smoothly and this final stage in med school goes well. As civil as this response was it took 8hrs for me to get it and Im reminded that she doesnt love me since she used to always say it (even when she broke up) and now didnt. I guess this is my cue to finally believe in acceptance, burn the last atom of hope and not look back at her. Moral of the story dont text your ex when you suspect that they have moved on. It will make you feel like a fool.
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 Homebrew has some great advice for future occurrences of this. I was one of the dumb founded that sent an email to my ex on her birthday. I was drunk that night and sent an email with the subject line: "Happy Birthday Babe" and a body text of: "Happy Birthday Babe! I hope you have an amazing day!". Be grateful that you got a response, and one so kind. I didn't receive anything in return. I had a class with my ex during the time and she asked me about it. I lied to her and said that I had programmed my computer to send her a happy birthday email automatically so I could be the first one to wish her a happy birthday and see her early the next morning (which obviously didn't happen). She bought the lie and that was the end of the conversation. But I know how you feel, thinking back to that I still feel like a fool for pulling that... no regrets on lying to her about it though, she lied to me numerous times throughout our relationship.
Author loverboy1984 Posted September 4, 2011 Author Posted September 4, 2011 Homebrew your right! Im not gonna say happy anything anymore at all. Im not gonna say merry christmas, happy new year or anything. DONE! no more contact. I was so confident before this and now feel less because i feel rejected again. Her being nice to me feels like shes so secure and happy with what she has that she is giving me empty well wishes.
Nohbody Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 I think you were very brave (and only a little foolish) to put yourself back out there. It's good to see that you are learning from your experiences, though. Don't worry. You're going to be ok.
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