onyxangyll Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 My bf/ex and i were having relationship issues and it got to a point where i felt like we needed a break. if u go to this thread i started a few days ago, u would get the details. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t294063/ anyways a month ago, i was still unsure about the relationship. so i applied NC and went on vacation for a month.. during which i wanted to call him but thought it would be for the best if i didnt. now i'm back from vacation and i've tried giving him calls - i've left msgs, tried IM'ing him, and it's been a week yet he hasnt replied at all. i probably sound desperate and that's because i realize that i was giving him a hard time because i was always wrapped up with school, family and etc.. that i never noticed the mean things i said to him. i tried apologizing - profusely - and it makes me really worried that he wouldnt reply at all - not even a simple 'hello' or anything. i realize that i hurt him, but since he is usually straightforward, i dont know what he means by ignoring me. i've even texted saying "if u really want to break up, just say so.." .. its not what i want at all, but i dont know what he wants now. we were together for almost a year now.. we were really close and in love - would he really just leave our relationship like this? i asked a mutual friend about him (just because i was really worried that he might have been killed or something) and he told me that he's fine.. should i keep contacting him and wait for him to say either "its ok i forgive you" or "fck off"? or should i wait for him to reply to me before doing anything else - but who knows when that will be? and i really dont want to keep checking my phone every 5 min to see if he's texted or done something new on fb. if i stop trying to reach him now, will it seem like i am not 100% devoted to this relationship and therefore drift us even further apart? i know usually ppl come on LS to vent about their relationships because they're the ones hurt/dumped and want help getting over their SO ... but i didnt know what else to do. i seriously scrwed up.
Nohbody Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 It might well be over. You have apologized, and now it's up to him to accept it or not, and to invite you back or not. There's nothing else you can do. Leave him be, let him make his decision - focus on yourself, learn from this experience what you can, and I wish you the best.
Author onyxangyll Posted September 4, 2011 Author Posted September 4, 2011 @Nohbody hey and thanks for ur response the thing is.. we've had times in the past when one of us did something wrong and the other just stop speaking for an entire week or so and just waited for an apology.. i know that doesnt make us sound very close but we were - when we weren't fighting we would talk/chat online/etc for up to 8 hrs a day.. sometimes when i was in class even lol do u think it's really done for good now? or that it might be another ignoring game and i should just wait it out??
mike588 Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 You have made contact with him, told him your feelings now it's time to leave him alone. If he wants you he will get in contact with you. No more emails, texts etc. The ball is in his corner now.
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