MyHeartHurtsOuch Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 bf and i broke up b/c our arguments were intense. He: still communicated with ex gfs behind my back not to cheat but he liked their attention (lets call it mild sex addiction tendencies) me: I was very critical of him and would name call and point out all his deficits (cause I was insecure and especially b/c of his tendencies) he ended up going to meetings and getting help but i didnt really see what was wrong m=with my behavior until after we broke up We have both worked on our areas of growth and he realizes I've changed and would never do that again but he said it doesnt erase all the pain he went through when i insulted him and made him feel he would never be good enough for me. He got a new shortly after we broke up and now they are together 24/7 he says he loves me but can't get back with me b/c of our past. He cant erase or get over the pain he went through. why is that? why can i forgive him and he cant forgive me? he says that his problems we both addressed and that i didnt admit mine til after the break up-why does that even matter? then he says things with her are "good" and things with me would be "great" but he still can't do it
Mary-Jane Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 Because it's not the real reason he doesn't want to try again, just a convenient excuse to keep things as they are and put the blame on you so you are left hanging just in case.
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