irc333 Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 ...to social events. There had been women I had met in the past, when they go to social events they NEVER bring their sig other with them. You could see them at a function 10 times, and not one time they don't bring their sig other. And no they aren't in an LDR either. Why is this?
OnyxSnowfall Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 (edited) Perhaps their spouses aren't into whatever function it is; perhaps their spouses are working; perhaps their spouses are taking the time to enjoy their own interest that their spouse at the function doesn't enjoy; perhaps their spouses have other obligations they are called to. Or perhaps the spouses just want time away from their spouses. More criminally, perhaps they're looking for someone else for something =P I'm sure there's other reasons... but I doubt they're all identical. You would have to ask them yourself and hope they tell you the truth if you are really curious. Edited September 3, 2011 by OnyxSnowfall
FrustratedStandards Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 I do the same thing with all my boyfriends. It means he isn't important enough to come, and she doesn't want people to think they are serious and keep her options open. At least, thats why I never bring them. I even go to weddings alone, because I don't want to scare off possible prospects. I only brought one boyfriend to social events, because I was thinking of getting serious with him. But that went to the sh*ts lol.
Author irc333 Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 Yeah, typically these are the signs of the demise of a relationship. When couples just stop doing things together, esp. social events. It's probably even sign they're exploring more options. I've even seen divorces occur in these instances. I do the same thing with all my boyfriends. It means he isn't important enough to come, and she doesn't want people to think they are serious and keep her options open. At least, thats why I never bring them. I even go to weddings alone, because I don't want to scare off possible prospects. I only brought one boyfriend to social events, because I was thinking of getting serious with him. But that went to the sh*ts lol.
Arasae Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 My SO rarely attends parties/events/etc with me, actually. I think we both prefer it that way--he's very introverted and thoughtful while I am very engaged and vibrant. I've found that I worry constantly about him not having a good time, and he worries about connecting enough with my friends and making a decent impression. It ends up stressing us both out! Sometimes, SO will drop me off and pick me up from places so I don't have to drive. I always come home to him, and there's something almost romantic about being away from an evening, missing him, and going home to snuggle with him. -shrug- I don't know! I feel close to him even when I'm busy with other stuff, and I know he feels the same way. Because of this, we've maintained really excellent relationships with our families and friends outside of one another. We don't need to be attached at the hip to feel okay with ourselves and what we're doing, I suppose. We've been doing this for over a year, and we've never been better; I just don't see it as an indicator as to the state of a relationship.
Author irc333 Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 -shrug- I don't know! I feel close to him even when I'm busy with other stuff, and I know he feels the same way. Because of this, we've maintained really excellent relationships with our families and friends outside of one another. We don't need to be attached at the hip to feel okay with ourselves and what we're doing, I suppose.Interesting, I had to move on to new friendships with other people , because a lot of my friends in the rural area got married had kids, and pretty much lost touch with me, becuase they were more busy with their married life, and probably you COULD say they were attached at the hip. I had this one friend, I hadn't seen him in a while, been married 4 years. His wife worked evenings, and I asked him to join our friends to see a movie that started at 8pm, he said, "Well, my wife comes home at 9pm, so I'm staying home waiting for her" ANd I'm like "Yeah so? Can't she wait on you? LOL"
grkBoy Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 ...to social events. There had been women I had met in the past, when they go to social events they NEVER bring their sig other with them. You could see them at a function 10 times, and not one time they don't bring their sig other. And no they aren't in an LDR either. Why is this? They have their own lives. I go to things without my fiance. Maybe she's got a lot of homework (she's studying hygiene) or she's tired, sick, etc. Some people are the types where they must have their SO with them everywhere, others have more loose RLs where they love one another, but want personal lives outside of one another...provided they're not cheating.
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