vlg560 Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 Hello everyone, it has been 7 long months since my breakup with my ex-gf. She basically cheated on me, strung me along for a few months and left me for this other guy who is the total opposite of me, and she had most (if not all) of the symptoms of GIGS. I am currently doing great and keeping busy with life, family, friends and my hobbies. My question is this: Is it normal for me to feel that I don't ever wanna be in a relationship again? I feel that I just don't want to put all the effort into dating and all that stuff again, and I feel that I am totally happy with my life right now. Whenever I see other couples that are happy, I somehow get this jealous feeling inside me, but I know that I do not want to be in a relationship because now I think it takes up too much time, effort, and fear of the same thing happening to me again. The first four months of my breakup were like hell. I was thinking and analyzing the whole thing day after day after day, and I even blamed myself sometimes for stuff that might have gone wrong. Right now I am just happy and contented with what I have, but no desire or plans to be in a relationship at all. Your opinions guys?
ken_25 Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 you probably just aren't ready. you may take two-three years before you feel different. it might just take meeting a certain person and they blow you away. just keep doing what you're doing.
just_scott Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 hmm recieveing end of g.i.g.s. ? how's that ? you girl just cheated on you , lied to you and was playying games with you you probably feel ''like you don't ever want a relationship again'' becuae you were cheatted on and lied to so your ego is shot . go out meet some women you're intrestead in start up a convo take it from their go slow don't EVER jump into something and start trusting the ther person or you'll get crushed again
Rorschach64 Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 Just keep on trucking like you've been doing and let things happen naturally. I sympathize with you in everyway since I am going through the same. Analyzing everything, maybe I am at fault here and there, maybe I was wrong to do x y z...but I wasn't, then I find myself doubting any girl I met and thinking "I've heard that before and look at what happened..." Time is your friend
Author vlg560 Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 you probably just aren't ready. you may take two-three years before you feel different. it might just take meeting a certain person and they blow you away. just keep doing what you're doing. You're right ken, it might be different after some time, and I definitely know that if I met someone awesome along the way, I would not be able to resist asking her out. Thanks!
Author vlg560 Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 hmm recieveing end of g.i.g.s. ? how's that ? you girl just cheated on you , lied to you and was playying games with you you probably feel ''like you don't ever want a relationship again'' becuae you were cheatted on and lied to so your ego is shot . go out meet some women you're intrestead in start up a convo take it from their go slow don't EVER jump into something and start trusting the ther person or you'll get crushed again Thanks just_scott, yes it will definitely take more to gain my trust this time. I had put all my effort into my last relationship, and tried to be the best bf, but turns out all my effort wasn't enough for her. Thanks for the advice about just takin' it slow and not rushing stuff...
Author vlg560 Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 Just keep on trucking like you've been doing and let things happen naturally. I sympathize with you in everyway since I am going through the same. Analyzing everything, maybe I am at fault here and there, maybe I was wrong to do x y z...but I wasn't, then I find myself doubting any girl I met and thinking "I've heard that before and look at what happened..." Time is your friend You're right, time is definitely our friend. Right now I am at a stage where I don't care about having a relationship or not as long as I've got my family, friends and my hobbies. If the time will come, it will...but I don't really care if it does or doesn't... Your doubting feelings about girls are also the same as mine...sometimes I think that they're all the same hahaha
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