mike588 Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 (edited) This is my second posting,, just wanting to know if I screwed up after sending her an email. Trying to make this short, My now ex g/f of 10 months left me 5 weeks ago for her ex b/f.They dated 14 months. Were both 45 no children involved.She knew I deeply loved her, was so very good to her ect. The sex was fantastic, not just on my side,really, I know. She told me numerous times that he just wasn't there for her, did'nt fill her needs and fought often. She broke up with him. I did no contact for 3 weeks then sent her an email saying I was her emotional bandaid and she always loved him more than me that I felt used. She knows how bad the breakup hurt me and still does.I got a reply saying she was so sorry for hurting me, it was something she just had to do cause she still loved him, I was a great boyfriend and this is hurting her too.. etc. etc. Question: Why did she reply with such a long email explaining what happened? Is she feeling guilt? Question: Did I screwup sending her an email first? I dont want her back to try it again I just want her to try to get back together so I can say SCREW YOU! Thats the only revenge I want.By sending her an email 1st did I mess up those chances?? And do you think it will work between them or she will see that the grass wasn't greener and it's the same old crap with him?? I'm back to no contact and will continue that and am not waiting for her,I've moved on!! Edited September 3, 2011 by mike588
Nohbody Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 It sounds like she used you to make herself feel better over her last relationship, and once she was all healed up she went back to that guy. So, you were used, and she doesn't really care about your feelings. Continue NC and find someone who appreciates you - that's my best advice.
Portisphish Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 Is that really what you want? To hurt her? I say you win by moving on. Every second that she takes away from your life is another second she is winning. Don't let her win. Move on!
just_scott Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 she left you ,you want some type of revenge cause your angry n hurt ver being dumpped [that's normal ] you want her to feel hurt .. ifyou think messing with her is gonna make you feel better than give it a try ,
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 I understand the whole wanting vengeance on your ex, I've been there. Up until recently I had a constant desire for her to be hurt, sometimes that desire involved her coming back where I would turn her down. Other times it would only involve her getting hurt by another guy to feel the pain I went through. Through mutual friends on facebook I have recently discovered that she was hurt by another guy. How do I feel? devastated. until I acquired that knowledge I wanted her to hurt just like I did. When I learned about her pain I felt tremendous guilt and sympathy towards her. I do not wish that pain on anyone.
Author mike588 Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 I don't want her to feel the intense pain that she has caused me even though she told me in a previous email that she was dealing with loss, sadness and grief. I want to believe that she does feel some of that but I also don't want her to feel what I've felt. I'm really not out for vengance. Thanx
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