without Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 So I was thinking i still haven't found the reason of the break up,after 2 months. I mean i know little things but they don't seem enough. here's one, but i think if he loved me like he said he did ,this wouldn't be a reason. about a month before the break up,he said he didn't want to get married before the age of 35 he's 22.( he always said he doesn't want to get married too early.)I was shocked and felt sad inside,I mean in where i live we can't live together nor have a complete sex ( just anal) before marriage.I told him wow..really?..he said nothing is clear about the future,i said if it's not clear why do you say 35??I know things aren't certain and future holds the answer but when you say 35 I can't help but feeling sad.. he repeated the future thing and he was SOOO upset ,he said he didn't think i would care about marriage,I said I don't but when you say 35 its sad I mean i can't live with you till like in the next 10 years ? and in the end i had to apologize and said he was right and i don't care about marriage... anyways honestly i did care because i longed to have real sex with him and be with him... could this be a reason?after that he didn't mention it and we got along.
Kendal Pierce Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 As I see your story, all I can say is that your relationship with this guy is not as strong and good as you thought. You might just need to accept the fact that your ex boyfriend is not that much into you.
silly_panda Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 Hey... If you keep going down this path, you will not be able to heal... You can think of hundreds of reasons for the break up... It won't get you anywhere... Don't think about what happen and all... Even if you get the answer... You won't be able to change anything rite..? IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU HE WOULDN'T HAVE BROKEN UP WITH YOU (hope that gets to you)... And I thought HeartOfAPhoenix gave you something to do... Work on it... Hang in there girl...
Author without Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 here it looks like that,but look at it as if he did care about me,could this be a reason?
Author without Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 Hey... If you keep going down this path, you will not be able to heal... You can think of hundreds of reasons for the break up... It won't get you anywhere... Don't think about what happen and all... Even if you get the answer... You won't be able to change anything rite..? IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU HE WOULDN'T HAVE BROKEN UP WITH YOU (hope that gets to you)... And I thought HeartOfAPhoenix gave you something to do... Work on it... Hang in there girl... Yeah i'm working on it, i thought maybe finding the reason would help me,but yeah it won't solve anything...
Author without Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU HE WOULDN'T HAVE BROKEN UP WITH YOU (hope that gets to you) of course how dumb i am...in ANY i mean anyy condition he wouldn't have,he said you need to go date people ,because he had and he said he knows im better but i don't know if he's better,but in the last minute he also told me we weren't a fit.never said that before.mixed signals.anyways if he did ,he wouldn't have.
silly_panda Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 I've created a new thread... Try to go through it... Do it... And see where your ex actually stands... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t295608/
Author without Posted September 5, 2011 Author Posted September 5, 2011 oh I forgot to say in the middle of that argument i said I never thought i would marry him anyway..I said it because i was angry and he hated to talk about these things. but he was so sensitive ..i mean he wouldn't even forget little things..could it be because I said this to him?should i apologize? I apologized when he left me and i begged him to comeback... I feel maybe it was my fault...or maybe it's not that..should i apologize.does this seem like a reason to leave someone..? he left me one month later.
silly_panda Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 It takes more than that to be a reason to leave someone... You already said you had apologized rite..? So just leave it as it is...
Author without Posted September 5, 2011 Author Posted September 5, 2011 Yes i did..you think so?i'm glad...
Author without Posted September 5, 2011 Author Posted September 5, 2011 You're a nice friend panda..become established sooner
silly_panda Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 Just keep on posting here and let us know that you are getting better each day...
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