Buttercup84 Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 It's been 2 months now and I thought I was doing better . But I just got home from a bacherlorette party and just want to cry . I tried to have fun but u feel so low . a cute waiter flirted with me but I just wanted to go away . Normally I would enjoy the attention . I left at midnight as I didn't want to be a downer for everyone . We were so close , discussed marriage and a month before he dumped me he said he never wants to Lose me . I just want to go to work and study and not go out . I tried being so busy but it's making me more depressed .
intigo Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 i ve been reading your posts for some time, i feel your pain. i wont give you any advice cause i cant give advice to myself. One day you are with someone that you trully believe in your heart its your other half and the next you have to live without them. The pain is unbearable for me its been a month, i was listening to adele's someone like you and just couldnt stop crying, love is so cruel. I have survived other breakups but this girl is my happiness, without her i will be sad even when im out with my friends, even if im at the movies, even if its my birthday i ve lost my smile
without Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 It's been 2 months now and I thought I was doing better . But I just got home from a bacherlorette party and just want to cry . I tried to have fun but u feel so low . a cute waiter flirted with me but I just wanted to go away . Normally I would enjoy the attention . I left at midnight as I didn't want to be a downer for everyone . We were so close , discussed marriage and a month before he dumped me he said he never wants to Lose me . I just want to go to work and study and not go out . I tried being so busy but it's making me more depressed . All I can say is you're not alone,I've been dumped 2 moths ago and I had no idea why...he also told me about 3 weeks before the break up he nver wants to lose me..It takes time...you'll heal...I myself sometimes hate him sometimes wait every second for him to comeback,I mean i can't go on without thinking he will..but it takes time to heal,we will,I'm sure.
silly_panda Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eGgZQXj2yms Hope this helps... This is totally not my genre of music but I just thought of it when I read your post...
without Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 i ve been reading your posts for some time, i feel your pain. i wont give you any advice cause i cant give advice to myself. One day you are with someone that you trully believe in your heart its your other half and the next you have to live without them. The pain is unbearable for me its been a month, i was listening to adele's someone like you and just couldnt stop crying, love is so cruel. I have survived other breakups but this girl is my happiness, without her i will be sad even when im out with my friends, even if im at the movies, even if its my birthday i ve lost my smile sometimes I have the fear of not finding someone adequate ...
intigo Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 sometimes I have the fear of not finding someone adequate ... someday i will find an other girl but i think i wll be compomising... i will compare her to my ex...i know this is not fair, everyone is different but i feel like she has taken a piece of my heart and i wont be complete never again
Kendal Pierce Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 You are actually doing yourself a favor, getting yourself busy with things you need to do like work or study. But don't forget that you have been hurt by the sudden breakup of your relationship and you are not ready for it. So what I am trying to say really is, allow yourself to be in pain. If you still feel it even if you are preoccupying yourself with a lot of things just so you will not dwell on it, don't worry that is normal and part of your healing process. You can't expect to be suddenly up and things are okay in an instant. Give yourself a time as to how much time you need to give yourself to feel this pain. A month or so would be good for some but the goal is you should know when you should stop and when you should be able to say to yourself that you should be over it. I wish you luck on this.
Arikel Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 (edited) I'm the dumper, but he was the cheater. But I still feel like crap, so we are all in the same boat.. I know we will get off it though, we just need time. The boards full of people who have had it worse, but they were alright in the end. There is hope, but wounds need time to heal At least, thats what I keep telling myself Edited September 3, 2011 by Arikel
olivec Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 It's been 2 months now and I thought I was doing better . But I just got home from a bacherlorette party and just want to cry . I tried to have fun but u feel so low . a cute waiter flirted with me but I just wanted to go away . Normally I would enjoy the attention . I left at midnight as I didn't want to be a downer for everyone . We were so close , discussed marriage and a month before he dumped me he said he never wants to Lose me . I just want to go to work and study and not go out . I tried being so busy but it's making me more depressed . Its been 4 months for me the pain is getting less and less so stay strong my dear. It sounds like you have a great support in your friends and it'll help with your healing. And i know staying busy with work is gunna be hard yes because your mind is constanly going back to him. This is where you should try new things to help with that either meet new people by getting involved in new activies you may not of tryed before. Just stay true to yourself and don't let your ex keep you down as i'm sure your a wonderful person inside and out and you will meet the right person.
mike588 Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 I know how you feel,my ex g/f dumped me for her ex b/f 5 weeks ago and I still hurt like hell. I'll hang with some friends then have this overwhelming feeling I just want to go home and cry,, its aweful.Even though I've had my heart broken in the past ,I to feel like a piece of my heart will always stay with her and I'll never get it back.. Oh the pain! I've been getting professional help which has helped and I suggest you do the same. Good Luck, keep us posted.
Author Buttercup84 Posted September 5, 2011 Author Posted September 5, 2011 Thank you everyone.I guess weekends are the worst for me as I realize that I have so much time and can't spend it with him. I wish you all the very best xxx
lucacoleman Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 It's hard for the first few months but things will get better. When that happened with me, I cried for months especially when I hear songs that reminded me of him or stuff that are associated with him. But it will soon be over. However, if you really want him that bad, you can get him back. if you are up for it.
katie.x Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 Thank you everyone.I guess weekends are the worst for me as I realize that I have so much time and can't spend it with him. I wish you all the very best xxx Buttercup, maybe try listen to this song once in a while. Not all the lyrics but mainly the chorus helps put how I feel and want to feel into words.
olivec Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 Thank you everyone.I guess weekends are the worst for me as I realize that I have so much time and can't spend it with him. I wish you all the very best xxx yeah i had a rough weekend to so i know how you feel. i just still have soo much anger towards my ex. everything is just hard these days. i just hope things get better and i can get back to normal.
ConfusedT Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 happy couples make me want to throw up (sorry guys), but i know we will all get our chance to be happy again one day. not everything is always as it seems though. & wouldnt you want to be in a happy relationship with unhappy times than an unhappy relationship with happy times? i was fooled into believing that we were happy, but sometimes even actions dont show everything... =( dont worry youre not alone and we are all going through it with you!
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