Why Would She Possibly Do This?

[Pikeman85]

So, I quasi-dated a girl from about December until May/June, never asked her out (should have, we were sleeping together and inseperable). Anyway she starts hanging out with a new guy, who is less than impressive. (ten years older than both of us, works in retail - we're both college grads, mid-20s, I'm a computer/tech guy, the exact type of profession she likes a guy to have) She sleeps with him, I still don't fight for her - but finally admit I like her about a month after she's hung out with him - why I waited so long, I have no idea. I tend to be very good with women, I just don't get involved in relationships often, so I think I was scared. I've never been in a situation like this, certainly. Anyway, she was initially very positive, and then I got drunk, awkward and told her I loved her. She got cold, but stayed my friend, and has been basically dating the less impressive guy for the past few months, while we've stayed friends, more or less. She considers me a close friend and flirts with me occasionally. I had a chance to make a move (actually more than a chance) about a month ago but hesitated. Anyway, in the last week she has: Gotten upset that I wanted to spend less time around her because she rejected me, texted me 6-8 times practically begging me to hang out. When I did come hang out, she pretty much asked me to stay from Friday night until Sunday morning. During this time, there was a party, where she invited her new guy. I invited a girl. She pretty much tried to embarrass me as much as possible in front of the girl. Yelled embarrassing things when she came in, got right in our faces when we were cuddling, and then bit my hand and then my elbow respectively (until I yelped!) while I was cuddling with the new girl. She then got cold for the rest of the night. She proceeded to wake me up by giving me a head massage. She woke her (female friend) up by ruffling her hair a little bit, but she gave me a massage. Then when I was quiet and just playing on my laptop she called me "bitter and pissy". Apparently when said friend tried to bring up dating me, she said "No, he's only my friend". She messages me on Skype every morning (I use it for work) and wishes me a good morning. She asked me to come over on Tuesday night and spend the night on her couch (and then told me I could switch to her bed after she got up). She tickled my feet as she left. Like, she seems somewhat flirty to me. And then on Thursday, she tried to invite me over to watch movies with her and the new guy. She said she wanted me to see her new hair, and when I said no, she got very insistent, and said "You only have to watch one movie! That wouldn't take much time!". I kept refusing, as I was moving into a new apartment (or starting to). Why would she invite me over to hang out with her and her new guy? Is it just an attention thing? I don't have any real hopes of getting back with her - I think I let that fly months ago, probably. She's trying to get me to drive out with her to California (why, I have no idea - her mother offered to pay for a plane ticket), which seeing as it is 2500 miles away, practically means I'd be moving there. She even asked me if I'd be willing to go on a road trip to Portland a couple weeks after the trip to California. So, main question is - why would she invite me over to watch movies with the one dude? She knows (or I think she does) that I don't enjoy being around him.

[madjac74]

She wants a threesome! Oh and you mentioned how you felt superior to him because of your degree or whatever but please use paragraphs so you don't blind us. I'm surprised they didn't teach that in college

Edited September 3, 2011 by madjac74

[spice4life]

She sounds like one crazy mixed up girl! She is keeping you around to boost her ego and gets off on t even more when you hang with her and the bf. You should just cut your losses and call it a day. She is not really acting like a friend who cares.