without Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 I was dumped 2 months ago,the kind that you don't have any idea why.. a month ago I saw that I can't get over him I was literally dying.. so i started online dating,I found a guy ,I really liked his face,he was really short but i don't care about height,and he also had a great job,very hard working. He never asked much about me,didn't want to date in person,he said he hardly accepts someone as his gf. I accepted,but he would only just wanted me for seeing me from skype and chatting ,sexting,asking to see how my body looked..I was feeling sad I told him hen we're not that close,I'm not comfortable doing these..He turned the conversation so i was the one feeling guilty..he said i'm the one making him turned on,but i wasn't doing anything!!..anyways i even thought about dumping him but i didn't want to get back to thinking about my ex and crying..so I tried my best to keep him... but in the end I asked him does he even like me?..he didn't answer my text..and after he said maybe he got used to me but a month of chatting doesn't bring liking someone..I was so sad and i told him i didn't asked you love me or not i asked you like me..you don't even like me and I feel stupid for doing those for you..you don't even like my appearance?..he didn't answer again,but after he said you interpreted again,i said ok tell me where i'm wrong.. he said look what i've said earlier and you'll find out..I thought maybe he likes me idk he says these like its my fault... late that night he asked me to be online but i was sleep ,and the day after he didn't answer any of my calls or textings...in the afternoon he said I told you before,I said what did u say? he didn't say anything and after a while he said i don't see any point in dating for us..I said why?give me another chance and he said no.. I mean what the hell?..If anyone ,I was the one that should dump him,not him!..but he hasn't deleted me from facebook.. what should i do?
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 Two things really stick out to me here: 1.) he only wants you for sex. (or online sex?) 2.) you are rebounding, and becoming a relationship jumper. (if you are not already) Take the time to properly heal, getting a rebound is only temporary relief and the original loss will come back in full force later on.
Author without Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 I know he olnly wants sex but i can't make myself believe it, i mean i can block him on facebook and get over it,but when i think i may get him back,i become powerless .. maybe i'm just trying to keep someone around... I think i healed but not completely..
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 I think i healed but not completely.. Take more time to yourself, enjoy being single. It's not a bad thing... in a lot of ways its actually better than being in a relationship. When you stop looking for that next guy, that next guy will come around. Just be patient and enjoy your single life for now.
Author without Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 yes,right..should i block him?
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 yes,right..should i block him? Yes, definitely block him. Hold standards to your friends like you would for yourself. If they don't show traits that meet up to your standards they shouldn't be deemed as a friend, and with the traits he has I wouldn't even want to associate myself with someone like that.
silly_panda Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 Yea... Don't go for a rebound relationship... Many times you will end up doing things you don't wanna or don't usually do... When your head is clear again, you will hurt yourself more thinking of those stuff that you shouldn't do and regret it... Live your life to the fullest and keep a smile on your face...
Author without Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 I did. he has so many friends and family and female friends around him,so i thought maybe i'm wrong..
Author without Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 Yea... Don't go for a rebound relationship... Many times you will end up doing things you don't wanna or don't usually do... When your head is clear again, you will hurt yourself more thinking of those stuff that you shouldn't do and regret it... Live your life to the fullest and keep a smile on your face... I try to...
silly_panda Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 Don't try... Just do it... It's hard, we all know... But it's not impossible... Hang in there girl...
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 I try to... try? change your vocabulary so when someone tells you to live your life to the fullest you can say "I do". typically when someone says "I'll try" or "I try" they set themselves up for failure, mainly because they are not confident in the situation. By eliminating "try" from your vocabulary you will become confident and set personal boundaries. Which will make you more attractive and will make you stronger. Homework assignment: think back to all the times you told someone you would "try" to do something. How often did you actually succeed? How often did you fail? Now think back to all the times you said "I will" do something. How often did you succeed? How often did you fail?
Author without Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 I will do my homework... its because i've been in so much pain..I mean just a couple of days ago i planned on ending my life because i saw no point in living...life is full of cruel people..I'm better now .. after i blocked him, i gained a little self respect again..
Author without Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 How could he be like this?he has so many friends,and his family and female friends seem so supportive and they seem to love him so much..
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 By setting boundaries and holding people to standards you will weed out a lot of the cruel people. Obviously some will make it through but you will have more good people in your life. I know you are in pain, I've been there and still get surges of the pain every so often. I've even had suicidal thoughts in the past as well, I planned it out... but I would never follow through with such ideas because that is the ultimate sign of being weak. Just remember this during those low times, "there's no way but up from here". And I expect that assignment to be on my desk Monday morning.
Author without Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 By setting boundaries and holding people to standards you will weed out a lot of the cruel people. Obviously some will make it through but you will have more good people in your life. I know you are in pain, I've been there and still get surges of the pain every so often. I've even had suicidal thoughts in the past as well, I planned it out... but I would never follow through with such ideas because that is the ultimate sign of being weak. Just remember this during those low times, "there's no way but up from here". And I expect that assignment to be on my desk Monday morning. Yes sir
Author without Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 Don't try... Just do it... It's hard, we all know... But it's not impossible... Hang in there girl... Thank you Panda <3
silly_panda Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 ................... Hey... What's wrong..?
Author without Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 Nothing I thought i hadn't thanked you so I said it again,then i saw my earlier post and there's no way you can delete a post or thread so i changed it to .... and thanks for Asking
silly_panda Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 Nothing I thought i hadn't thanked you so I said it again,then i saw my earlier post and there's no way you can delete a post or thread so i changed it to .... and thanks for Asking No problem... We are here to help out each other rite..? You know how you can really thank us..? Be happy with yourself and we are waiting to hear good news from you...
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