shjoll Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 been dating this guy for about a month we have a long distance relationship and when i go see him he always text all night long to his ex. I always initiate the convos. he opened up to me about his past and how women used him and gossiped about his small penis. he has only called me 3 times out of 5 weeks we text every day when i initiate it. When we go out on dates i always pay because he says he is broke but he is in the military as a physician assistant making good money. should i dump him does it look like im desperate when i pay for dinner and the hotels. should i step back and stop initiating convos. All advice is welcome I think this man is a douche bag to me.
silly_panda Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 Well... On the communication part, it does sounds a lot like my case... I seldom initiates contact with my ex girlfriend... It was always her that initiated it first (through texting)... But this only happens 1year plus into the relationship... And the reason I did not do what I should (initiate contact - I live to regret it now) was that I was busy focusing on my career... In your case, it was only 1 month into relationship... Hmm... You both should be in a honeymoon stage and both side will sure have a lot to talk about... As a guy, I think it's not appropriate at all for the girl to pay for everything... In fact, I wouldn't let my girlfriend to pay for anything at all... I will do the paying... But anyway... If you think you really like this guy and you think it will work out, talk to him... Tell him straight about he not initiating the contact issue and for you paying for everything... Make sure the message gets across and he understand the consequences if he still keep this up... Well... I'm just saying based on my opinion and based on my case... If my ex had told me how serious it was and it will really effect the relationship badly, I will really put more effort into making us work and change my bad habit of not contacting her first... Anyway... Good luck...
Kendal Pierce Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 Come on, you are more than smart enough to know what to do with this guy. It is okay for a girl to pay for restaurant or food when you go out and have a date. But doing it twice, thrice or what not, come on! This guy will not be using you for whatever reason or purpose and will not be abusing you, if you will not let him. Dump him and look for other fish in the ocean!
Author shjoll Posted September 4, 2011 Author Posted September 4, 2011 i was trying to come off as the chick not looking for his money. i also was trying to show him i had my own money so i guess i look like a damn fool
Buttercup84 Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 I am modern and independent but if a guy asks you out he should pay . Or at least go 50 - 50 . If you always have to initiate contact it's not working . You can do way better than that ! Don't you want a guy who can't stand being away from you , who buys you dinner and shows you attention ? Dump that loser he will never change .
sun_moon Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 say it with me Hello and good bye. DUMP DUMP DUMP.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 been dating this guy for about a month we have a long distance relationship and when i go see him he always text all night long to his ex. I always initiate the convos. He opened up to me about his past and how women used him and gossiped about his small penis. He has only called me 3 times out of 5 weeks we text every day when i initiate it. When we go out on dates i always pay because he says he is broke but he is in the military as a physician assistant making good money. Should i dump him does it look like im desperate when i pay for dinner and the hotels. Should i step back and stop initiating convos. All advice is welcome i think this man is a douche bag to me. should i keep him or dump his ass d.t.m.f.a. !!!
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