shjoll Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 been dating this guy for about a month we have a long distance relationship and when i go see him he always text all night long to his ex. I always initiate the convos. he opened up to me about his past and how women used him and gossiped about his small penis. he has only called me 3 times out of 5 weeks we text every day when i initiate it. When we go out on dates i always pay because he says he is broke but he is in the military as a physician assistant making good money. should i dump him does it look like im desperate when i pay for dinner and the hotels. should i step back and stop initiating convos. All advice is welcome I think this man is a douche bag to me.
richardwordoff Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 Oh god, why the hell would he complain to you about the penis gossip? I wouldn't ever say that to anyone, especially someone I was dating. You are texting him every single day? That comes across as clingy to some guys. He has only called you 3 times in 5 weeks? Does he need to call you more? You're still talking when you go out right? If a guy is interested he will generally initiate contact. However, if you're initiating conversation ALL THE TIME then he probably expects it and doesn't feel a need to initiate. He is letting you pay for all the meals and hotel bills? In my opinion it is disrespectful to not try and split the costs. Paying for everything probably does make you look desperate and it also makes you come off as you'll do whatever he wants you to do. He may be making good money as a PA but always be careful about assuming that people that make a lot have money to burn. I know a few people who make a lot but spend all their money paying for bills... I don't really know how you'd bring that up though, that is, ask him what is going on with his finances. I actually don't think there is any good way to do it. Maybe the next time you are agreeing to go out tell him YOU'RE low on money and that you think you'll only be able to cover your bill.
Lucky_One Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 I think I would tell him simply that you don't see this relationship going anywhere, and then stop texting, calling, and paying for him to have sex with you. A man who spends our date time being in contact with an XGF is a man who would have more than a small penis. (Or maybe I should say "less than"!)
Yookie Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 been dating this guy for about a month we have a long distance relationship and when i go see him he always text all night long to his ex. I always initiate the convos. he opened up to me about his past and how women used him and gossiped about his small penis. he has only called me 3 times out of 5 weeks we text every day when i initiate it. When we go out on dates i always pay because he says he is broke but he is in the military as a physician assistant making good money. should i dump him does it look like im desperate when i pay for dinner and the hotels. should i step back and stop initiating convos. All advice is welcome I think this man is a douche bag to me. Ok so you you've only been dating a month and during that time you see that: 1) He's only called 3 times in 5 weeks. 2) Text everyday because YOU initiate it. 3) He says he's broke so you pay for diner and hotels 4) While in this hotel paid for by you, he texts all night long to his ex! 5) He has a small penis. Yes you sound desperate. Why are you still dating him?
Author shjoll Posted September 4, 2011 Author Posted September 4, 2011 i think the only reason i am attracted to him is because he is a good father to his kids and is a single father. he is sweet when we do talk to each other. he goes to school full time and pays for his daughter to go to private school and is paying the mortgage on 3 house and 1 is his mothers i think i was trying to be understanding
D-Lish Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 when i go see him he always text all night long to his ex. I always initiate the convos. he has only called me 3 times out of 5 weeks we text every day when i initiate it. When we go out on dates i always pay because he says he is broke but he is in the military as a physician assistant making good money. should i dump him does it look like im desperate when i pay for dinner and the hotels. should i step back and stop initiating convos. All advice is welcome I think this man is a douche bag to me. I just wanted to highlight the whole paragraph in bold so you could read it back to yourself... Are you kidding me? You already know he is a douchebag, why do you need strangers on the internet to confirm that? Do you respect yourself? Do you think you deserve better? If your answer is yes to the above 2 questions- you should have the answer within yourself as to how to proceed.
Recommended Posts