grkBoy Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 Team Fortress 2 is pretty fun. My brother actually got his wife into some games like SSX Tricky, Burnout (any version with Crash Party), and the Lego Star Wars or Indiana Jones series. Couples that play together stay together.
sm1tten Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 I like video games, but I have no problem dating someone who doesn't. I did date a guy who was obsessive in his gaming but I don't judge gamers as a group; any hobby can be seen as immature or destructive to a romantic relationship if indulged in to excess. The fact that you said you played "excessively" would be a turn on only to a fellow gamer, I'd think. If you have balance in your activities, it's fine. And you should be upfront about it - lying about/omitting it then sheepishly coming clean later only undergirds the stigma.
Abhuman Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 Team Fortress 2 is pretty fun. My brother actually got his wife into some games like SSX Tricky, Burnout (any version with Crash Party), and the Lego Star Wars or Indiana Jones series. Couples that play together stay together. I love tf2 it's been the only game I have played regularly for the last two years. It's nice because you can just log on and compete just fine even if you haven't been online every day to get all the bonus stuff. Not only that but the outrageously hilarious characters still crack me up all the time. But I would never date a mmorpg player that was in a raiding group. Been there and it's not fun at all. "Hey look at this new cape I got from boss whatever!" "oh ok, hey look at the new wheels I got on my car" "I can't now, I'm killing the same monster over and over for the next 5 hours to try and get some rare item"
Cee Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 Team Fortress 2 is pretty fun. My brother actually got his wife into some games like SSX Tricky, Burnout (any version with Crash Party), and the Lego Star Wars or Indiana Jones series. Couples that play together stay together. My boyfriend is into Team Fortress 2. In fact, he is playing it now and I am Love Shack on the gamer thread. I want him to teach me a game. I'll check out those suggestions.
madjac74 Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 My boyfriend is into Team Fortress 2. In fact, he is playing it now and I am Love Shack on the gamer thread. I want him to teach me a game. I'll check out those suggestions. I know a lot of women who aren't generally into games love "The Sims". I must warn you though it is quite addicting.
thatone Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 (edited) I don't think girls admit to playing videogames either. And they are hard to come by IMO. there was a smoking hot girl on okc that i stumbled across who said that any man who beat her at black ops consistently would get at least one date from her. My boyfriend is into Team Fortress 2. In fact, he is playing it now and I am Love Shack on the gamer thread. I want him to teach me a game. I'll check out those suggestions. i'll admit to playing TF2 despite being a well adjusted 34 year old . it's pretty easy, you just toss rockets/grenades at doorways, set things on fire, laugh when you die, and enjoy the hilarious voice acting in the game. it's not supposed to be very serious, it's supposed to be stupid and cartoony, that's why it's fun. Edited September 5, 2011 by thatone
AHardDaysNight Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 What I don't understand is how video games are uncool, but it's okay for a man to be addicted to watching sports? How are sports any better than video games? They're both entertainment!
grkBoy Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 My boyfriend is into Team Fortress 2. In fact, he is playing it now and I am Love Shack on the gamer thread. I want him to teach me a game. I'll check out those suggestions. SSX Tricky is a snowboarding game. My sister-in-law saw it, tried it, and got into it. Burnout is just fun on Crash Party because you simply high-speed a car into a busy intersection and cause a "ballet of destruction". Basically just cause as much of a massive accident as you can.
madjac74 Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 What I don't understand is how video games are uncool, but it's okay for a man to be addicted to watching sports? How are sports any better than video games? They're both entertainment! Not that I'm taking a side because I enjoy both but sports you can go outside and play which is not only fun but you are getting exercise and most likely sunlight. Video gamers have the stereotype of being hidden away in their basements sitting on the couch eating snacks and soda and getting fat.
Arikel Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 I like video games, but mainly the more 'girly' less violent type. MMORPGS, strategy, or RPG's are my favs .. unfortunately or fortunately, I have a horrendous internet connection so I can't play online games anymore. Else I'd probably be hooked to them and not go out lol
grkBoy Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 What I don't understand is how video games are uncool, but it's okay for a man to be addicted to watching sports? How are sports any better than video games? They're both entertainment! I agree with the other opinion. It's mainly that "watching football" is a "man" thing and thus many women see plenty of "manly men" doing it...while video games are more seen as a "nerd/geek" thing, and thus women think men into video games are not the "jocks" or "alphas" they want.
climbergirl Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 Most women would not be interested in playing video games. Some of the really young ones might play a little, but it's more of a guy thing, and mostly among young men. You would be wise to spend your time on things that are better for you, rather than sitting on the couch or chair watching a screen for hours on end. Girls don't normally find that fun at all. To answer the question about what I do for fun with my husband, we like to go dancing, go to the beach and play volleyball, travel, try out unique restaurants, explore, go to concerts, go to sporting events, hiking, biking, skiing, visiting interesting places (museums, art shows, historic places), horseback riding, playing tennis, going to plays or performances, camping, fishing, picnicing, etc. Sitting in the house in front of the T.V. or computer screen is something I do to unwind. If I want to be entertained or have fun, that involves leaving the house, normally. I would have to disagree with this post. My husband and I do most of what you mentioned, but we also love gaming. BTW he's 49 and I'm 43. We will go for months without playing, but what can I say...Deus Ex came out on the 23rd.
climbergirl Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 Oh, and to all my fellow gamers...you would love Tripod's song "Gonna make you happy". Makes me laugh everytime I hear it!
robdrm32 Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 I can relate, i used to play video games almost non-stop in my free time, it was my main hobby. When i'd start dating a girl i realized i didn't have much to talk about, and i would make her my main source of entertainment outside of video-games. That doesn't make for a healthy relationship, let alone the lifestyle. What i notice is it comes down to masculinity. Someone brought up watching football, that doesn't have the stigma of video-games because its very masculine in nature. Video-games on the other hand aren't. Aside from call of duty, and madden-type games, video games don't permeate masculinity. Especially when they are played for long periods of time. It just tells a woman you don't have a life or anything interesting going on in your life. Yes there are gamer girls but reality is video-games aren't an attractive hobby. If you treat it like a late night hobby for an hour or so before bed thats one thing. But as a main hobby/time sink it can be a turn off.
dasein Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 (edited) It would be a horrible mistake to list video games in a dating profile. It would be the equivalent of admitting to liking porn or heroin. Men, make no mistake, whatever you do for fun, scuba, golf, video games, gardening, whatever it is, if she doesn't also do it, and it doesn't fit into her agenda of what she thinks you should be doing (i.e. spending all your free time doing something that benefits her), she WILL begin to chip away, sometimes subtly, sometimes like a jackhammer, at your hobbies when they conflict in any way with her life agenda. I've seen this well over 100 times in spectating my friends' marriages from the sidelines. If she likes to do it, you are in the clear. If she doesn't like to do it, if it is a hobby that takes any amount of time, and ESPECIALLY alone time out from under her watchful gaze and control, it has GOT TO GO! All it takes is for some mangina husband or BF of one of her friends to do something like take salsa lessons and you are dead in the water. Or it could be her mother asking her "what does he do for you?" (and this has nothing to do with paying bills or working 70 hour weeks strangely enough... there's always more that you can and should be doing for the woman and it comes from all angles, tv, her idiot friends and their idiot BFs, her family... who hear more complaints about you from her than you will ever know, etc.) Unless she plays them also (I imagine 10-20% of women do today), video gaming paints a GIGANTIC red target on you as an immature, nonserious person. What she really thinks, but will never say, is that you should give up all your hobbies and get a second job to afford a McMansion and all the crap she wants to fill it up with. Welcome to the joys of the longterm relationship for men in the feminized consumer culture of the U.S.A. Edited September 5, 2011 by dasein
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