sleepessinoh Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 No contact is hard. I just started it. I am doing it though. Today something happened and I said OMG I cant wait to tell MM and then remembered that I cant. It kinda knocked the breath out of me. So help me out. Finish this sentence for me so I can see the huge and awesome benefits of NC. I am____ into NC and I ___ I am 5 days into NC and I miss him so much but have not broken it.
wannabdone Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 seventeen days, here, my friend!!! seventeen llllllooooonnnnnngggggg days!!!! but, i will reclaim my life!!!! keep up the good work!!
TurboGirl Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 6 and a half months here... keep reminding yourself of all the bad stuff. I think as time goes by, it is easy to romanticize or "forget" all that nasty crap you took and accepting crumbs. So, suggest you keep a little list handy why your xMM is a total jerk and why he is bad for you - I had a list & referrred to it often during the first 8-9 weeks.
Severely Unamused Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 (edited) It gets easier as time goes by... This is from an OW who was once in your shoes, years ago: The hardest journeys in life are often the most rewarding. Of course, sometimes they are a complete waste of time. But I don't think that this is one of those times. Edited September 4, 2011 by Severely Unamused Clouded thoughts.
fooled once Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 It gets easier as time goes by... This is from an OW who was once in your shoes, years ago: The hardest journeys in life are often the most rewarding. Excellent!!
Gentlegirl Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 Getting better here. Still have the odd hiccup. Mostly caused by stuff outof my control. Whilever i keep busy and occupied, things are fine Gentlegirl
Lostinlife4now Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 I am in the 4 or 5 round of NC' date=' a little over 2 months in (this time) and I [b']hate[/b] him. And BTW...thoughts of "I can't wait to tell MM x", not going to stop easily, sorry. Just did it today. Oh...and did I mention I hate him? I am about 2 to 3 weeks NC. Oh and Yes I HATE HIM also. Getting easier. but this NC was a long time coming. I HATE HIM...... And he gets away with W never finding out. Like getting away with Murder. HATE HIM.
wannabdone Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 I am about 2 to 3 weeks NC. Oh and Yes I HATE HIM also. Getting easier. but this NC was a long time coming. I HATE HIM...... And he gets away with W never finding out. Like getting away with Murder. HATE HIM. You know what.....even if the W doesn't "find out', somehow she does. It might not actually be the exact words or story, but trust me....there are problems there. Untrust, fighting, a relationship built on lies. He will get his. He is getting his by living a life in a M where there is emptiness. Sometimes I think that can be the best revenge!!!! You are doing great!!!! Keep it up!! Oh an I must say ....... severly unamused. that has GOT TO BE THE BEST SCREEN NAME I'VE EVER SEEN!!!! LOVE IT!!!
wannabdone Posted September 4, 2011 Posted September 4, 2011 I am in the 4 or 5 round of NC' date=' a little over 2 months in (this time) and I [b']hate[/b] him. And BTW...thoughts of "I can't wait to tell MM x", not going to stop easily, sorry. Just did it today. Oh...and did I mention I hate him? Okay....LID.... I have to ask what you meant. Did you tell the xMM something that you have wanted to say??? Share with the class.
fooled once Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 Each day will get a little easier and you will all get stronger each day. I believe we all eventually get back what we put out there. The MM may not "hurt" or get what is coming to him today or next week, but one day, he will get what he deserves. Focus on healing and not so much about what he will or will not have to own. Good luck to all of you!
wannabdone Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 Each day will get a little easier and you will all get stronger each day. I believe we all eventually get back what we put out there. The MM may not "hurt" or get what is coming to him today or next week, but one day, he will get what he deserves. Focus on healing and not so much about what he will or will not have to own. Good luck to all of you! FO.... I think that you are 100% right on. It is the most important thing, however, it seems to be the hardest thing in all of this. Oh course like anything else in life, the hardest things to do are the things that help you the most. (which by the way, I think is the mindset that people get and why they stick with these damn things longer than they should. I know that was true in my case. I do think in general, it is right that the hardest things are the best)
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