Spices Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 Granted, he still loves his ex wife. Also, do newly divorced men generally just want to play around?
carhill Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 I was over the breakup long before the final judgment was filed and approved by the court. Is that typical? Unknown. Every man and every marriage is unique. If he 'loves his ex-wife', fuggetaboutit. Some newly divorced people 'play around', validate their attractiveness and generally just use people to get over their pain. Others take alone time to reflect. Others immerse themselves in work and/or hobbies. Others spend time with friends and family. Others do a mix of many 'things'. My datapoint is I'm generally as I was during my single years, interested in LTR's. Men who 'played around' during their single years will likely return to that 'style'. Men are creatures of habit. They do what works for them. Good luck
martyjones47 Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 My datapoint is I'm generally as I was during my single years, interested in LTR's. Men who 'played around' during their single years will likely return to that 'style'. Men are creatures of habit. They do what works for them. Good luck That's what I found as well. During my separation I almost entered into something else that i saw as a likely long term relationship. I had a lot of thoughts about being a "player," but it just wasn't my style. I didn't need the validation, and it probably helped to know that interest was there if I wanted it. I could definitely see some embracing that for an ego boost or whatever, though.
BrettLost Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 I could'nt agree more with what has been said. Im a commitment type of guy, never had a one night stand, probably never will. I agree with the flattering type of self esteem it may muster within, to get girls attention, but it if it is'nt a real connection I'm out. As to whether u actually get over separation/divorce, depending on how deep ur soul was invested into it, you may never get over it. Presently i play the best hand with the cards that my stbxw has dealt me. What more can u do. If female attraction happens to present itself, I'm not jumping at it, but rather walking on as if it was'nt there, if she's truly interested enough she'l earn my attention...
worldgonewrong Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 I could'nt agree more with what has been said. Im a commitment type of guy, never had a one night stand, probably never will. I agree with the flattering type of self esteem it may muster within, to get girls attention, but it if it is'nt a real connection I'm out. As to whether u actually get over separation/divorce, depending on how deep ur soul was invested into it, you may never get over it. Presently i play the best hand with the cards that my stbxw has dealt me. What more can u do. If female attraction happens to present itself, I'm not jumping at it, but rather walking on as if it was'nt there, if she's truly interested enough she'l earn my attention... BrettLost - you and I appear to be cut from the same cloth. I could have written these same words exactly.
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