LK30 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 I'm still having a drought with women, and another year has ticked by. I still can't get my ex gf out of my head but to be honest I'm accepting I never really will. I really want to feel wanted, and I'm far from a bad guy but still cannot get off the mark. I'm debating going back on dating websites, but I promised myself I wouldn't. As I'm not a clubber and pubber, I'm still quite keen on the idea of 'daygame' on you tube whereby guys approach girls in the street during the day and try to get a date. It has its pro's of course - you can see them in daylight, they're sober, and there's lots of them. The cons are you can come across like a stalker, and women tend to look like they're 'on a mission' rather than walking around all day looking at men!! If it comes to it I think I'll emigrate from the UK to Canada in the hope the apparent appeal we have over there with our accents and see if that will help, but might need to save up more money!! I know people give really good advice on here, but something is really wrong, or perhaps I need to accept women are just not interested in me!
Dblock10 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 i can give you a free tip. its because you care to much. you do know women can sense that right...! stop caring about women, why do you care so much? really? you will be loved again one day, love yourself mate? its not too hard. sure its nice having someone love you. but you can get by on your own two feet. girls like men. girls like confident men. girls like direction and power. remember you were born alone, you will die alone
Zaphod B Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 I'm a huge online dating supporter and have had huge success with it. I think most people who find it difficult tend to make a lot of the same mistakes. What I'm trying to do is get involved in other activities too. Like I joined up with a squash club, play Texas Holdem Poker in local bars and am even considering going to a dance class. I've lacked a good social life due to focussing on my kids and now they're teenagers I can leave them home alone. One thing that's been good for me is increasing my field of good male friends. Because I'd neglected a social life, I found myself with no real good friends to hang out with. I have worked on that and have started to put time and effort into those friendships. I now have 3 really good male friends. One of them introduced me to a really amazing woman just recently through a female friend of his. Another (through my poker nights) invited me to a birthday party. Contacts are a huge thing, so try to take advantage of those. Make good male friends to improve your chances of introductions.
antinko Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 If I could explain what I'm doing to get so many date offers lately, I'd write a book... I used to try too hard and care too much and I think that is the key. Since being dumped by my ex, I've just talked to girls and not given much of a damn what they've thought about me: I've just been me, decent, funny etc. And I managed to get dates out of curiosity or I was asked myself. The daylight thing sounds interesting but yeh, don't force anything. If anything, just strike up conversation...
Author LK30 Posted September 2, 2011 Author Posted September 2, 2011 Thanks guys. The funny thing is I'm going on holiday with a group of friends in March (14 of us, mainly couples) and one girl is 19. She's taken a real shine to me and been texting me, saying she can't wait to spend time with me as I'm really attractive. Typical isn't it! Obviously I've got to put her off, but it's nice to hear a very rare compliment!!
antinko Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 Thanks guys. The funny thing is I'm going on holiday with a group of friends in March (14 of us, mainly couples) and one girl is 19. She's taken a real shine to me and been texting me, saying she can't wait to spend time with me as I'm really attractive. Typical isn't it! Obviously I've got to put her off, but it's nice to hear a very rare compliment!! Why do you have to put her off?
Dblock10 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 ah, you to old for her then? yeah well the trip will be amazing you will meet loads of people
Author LK30 Posted September 2, 2011 Author Posted September 2, 2011 I'm 30!! A couple of her relatives are going. I think she's eyeing me up as a challenge like she can get me without them knowing like a secret affair or something!
Dblock10 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 haha who knows eh! yeah, no1 tip. dont care... ever. just ask yourself why should you care lol. girls will come flocking
antinko Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 Hm, 30 with a 19 year old is possibly too much of a gap at this stage... Although, 31 with a 20 year old, I wouldn't say was... Strange how that works. Anyway, just do what feels comfortable mate.
Author LK30 Posted September 2, 2011 Author Posted September 2, 2011 Cheers Dblock10 - I'll give that a try!
Dblock10 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 no worries. its hard though. as when you meet one that gets you hot under the collar... its a true test haha. yeah 30 with a 20 sounds normal... but meh, what ever floats your boat
visualbasicide Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 I myself am of a mind that when I feel like I don't "need" anyone else, will be the start of actually considering being with someone else. When you have your confidence, self esteem and self respect all in order, then start thinking about someone else, not before.
Dblock10 Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 if thats the case, i am ready! lol. i dont need anyone! i am amazing, self confident guy. cant wait to meet someone new. how exciting it is when you do
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