Drew23 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 I'm currently a freshman in college, and I had a relationship with this girl for two years. She is currently a senior in high school. I grew up in a really small town so we knew each other before we started dating. Our families were great friends and we use to get together quite a lot with each other. We started dating in the summer of 2009. After about 4 months, we both decided that it wasn't working out and we mutually agreed on staying close friends. We hung out all the time, talked on the phone every night, and texted each other everyday. Two years passed and it was almost time for me to graduate high school. We had been talking for 2 months prior saying how we were ready to get back together and date again. I chose to go to college about 30 minutes away so I could visit her whenever and stay close because she was insecure about me going far away. We both always said that we loved each other and that nothing would ever come between us. She was so special to me, so I decided to surprise her one day. We both liked to golf, so I was going to take her golfing, then out to dinner. I had a huge boutique of flowers ordered and I was going to ask her out when we were at dinner. I had no idea what was about to happen next... Her brother played summer baseball and she was away every weekend at tournaments. She always told me how a few guys on the team liked her and I clearly told her oplenty of times to stay away from them. She always told me that they aren't and won't ever be a problem, but I always had a bad gut feeling about it. The day before I was going to take her golfing and what not, we were texting and she told me she needed to talk to me about something. I didn't think anything of it. I just thought it was something simple. Boy was I wrong....she told me that she didn't like me anymore and she thought this guy on her brother's team was cute and she said she really liked him. She then proceeded to say they have been talking since the beginning on June! This conversation took place in mid July... I was really mad at the time and told her about my plans the next day and she got really upset and apologized and all that. She then said she would let things die down with this guy she liked and we could get back together. Weeks passed and she didn't stop talking to him. In fact she went to visit him and they hung out a lot. He lives 2 hours away from her. Then one day she texted me and said that she loves him and their going to start dating soon...I didn't know what to say.. She then said that I was nothing but dirt and he is so much better and all this. A week passed by and she said she wanted to remain "best friends." I'm very hurt from this and I don't know what to do. 1). I would like some feedback from this story 2). Should I be friends with her? 3). Why did she do this? Every word of advice counts!
Stncldgent Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 If you are still emotionally attached to her, there is no way for you to still be friends. as much as it will hurt you, sticking around hoping that she still has some feelings for you is only going to hurt you more in the end. Your ex wants to "remain friends" because in her mind it's gonna hurt you less if she says she wants to remain friends. another reason is that she might want to keep you around in case the new guy doesn't work out. don't give her that option. She has shown that she doesn't care about your feelings by breaking up with you and throwing it in your face that the new guy is better than you. My advice is walk away, go no contact with her, if she tries to contact you just ignore her text or phone calls. Never make someone your priority, who only sees you as an option. You deserve better, your heart deserves better. There are plenty of more women out there, hell you are a freshman in college, go out and have fun man. eventually you will find someone to help you forget about her.
silly_panda Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 If you are still emotionally attached to her, there is no way for you to still be friends. as much as it will hurt you, sticking around hoping that she still has some feelings for you is only going to hurt you more in the end. Your ex wants to "remain friends" because in her mind it's gonna hurt you less if she says she wants to remain friends. another reason is that she might want to keep you around in case the new guy doesn't work out. don't give her that option. She has shown that she doesn't care about your feelings by breaking up with you and throwing it in your face that the new guy is better than you. My advice is walk away, go no contact with her, if she tries to contact you just ignore her text or phone calls. Never make someone your priority, who only sees you as an option. You deserve better, your heart deserves better. There are plenty of more women out there, hell you are a freshman in college, go out and have fun man. eventually you will find someone to help you forget about her. Totally agreed with Stncldgent... You deserve someone better... And personally, I don't think she even wanna be best friend with you... Why..? She said you are nothing but a dirt... Even a normal friend won't say that to his/her friend... Go NC... Get your dignity back... Don't hang around and don't bother about what she does... What she does is her problem... The more you know the more you will get hurt... Go enjoy life and move on... Hang in there man...
xotic Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 OBV you have a lot emotionally attached to someone when you date someone for so long but I don't think being friends with this person sounds like a good idea to be honest. Sometimes space is the best thing
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