sammy1212 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 My girlfriend of a year leaves me for my best mate, its like i dont even know the guy anymore, the worst bit is i cant get my ex out my ****ing head. After all she's done why should i still love her? Im constantly jealous of everyone else and feel like everyone is out to get me. How can i overcome this?
wilsonx Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 My girlfriend of a year leaves me for my best mate, its like i dont even know the guy anymore, the worst bit is i cant get my ex out my ****ing head. After all she's done why should i still love her? Im constantly jealous of everyone else and feel like everyone is out to get me. How can i overcome this? This actually sucks and I am sorry, I know 3 people in real life that this has happened to and although us guys have the code bros before hoes, you realize that they aren't really your true friends after all is said and done. I will tell you that from the 3 people I know including one of the people I befriended on the forum, this will not work long term. It has actually been extremely short term relationships for all 3 of the people. Dump the friend, dump the ex out of your life, serious NC from them both forever. Real friends dont do this to friends. I would never do this to any friend and I am sure you wouldnt either. Be the person of high character and walk away and let it go. You will be so much stronger after recover from this
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 This actually sucks and I am sorry, I know 3 people in real life that this has happened to and although us guys have the code bros before hoes, you realize that they aren't really your true friends after all is said and done. I will tell you that from the 3 people I know including one of the people I befriended on the forum, this will not work long term. It has actually been extremely short term relationships for all 3 of the people. Dump the friend, dump the ex out of your life, serious NC from them both forever. Real friends dont do this to friends. I would never do this to any friend and I am sure you wouldnt either. Be the person of high character and walk away and let it go. You will be so much stronger after recover from this Me being the one wilson befriended on the forums, I can tell you that you don't know who your true friends are until you are lying in the dirt. I know from my experience that your ex going to your best mate is detrimental to your ego and your heart. Wilson gave some good advice though, real friends DO NOT do this to friends. I certainly wouldn't date a friends ex, I wouldn't even hang out with a friends ex to be quite honest. Keep your chin up and stay strong, a new day brings new light.
D-Lish Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 That's horrible- I can't imagine what you are going through. Heart is right, you get to know who your real friends are when you're "lying in the dirt". My former best friend met a guy and he confided in me after a few months that he was more attracted to me. We were incredibly compatible and I was attracted to him as well. Regardless of that chemistry, I totally avoided situations of being in the same room with him after that. She was my best friend- I never would have gone there despite the fact that I was very much attracted to him, because you just don't do that to a friend. I say former best friend because I realized she was totally willing to entice any guy I brought around her. Bros before hoes for me = chicks before dicks.
Author sammy1212 Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 Cheers guys its sounds nasty but it nice to know that im not the only one going through the same situation, its good advice as well as much as i hate to leave the 2 people closest to me in my life i think it will probably make things better.
silly_panda Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 Hey... I had had this experience before too... It was like 5years ago though... It sucks having two person you trusted the most betray you... Well... At least you get to find out earlier rite..? Hang in there man... Smile and wish them 'well'...
visualbasicide Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 Don't feel too bad man, I got my wife a tattoo for our 5th anniversary and she nailed the tattoo guy about 3 weeks later. It will hurt and you will think about the ex constantly, it's not abnormal, don't even try to fight it. Your friends really do prove themselves when things go south for you, I had to give all but two of mine up, and some family for that matter, since they didn't see anything wrong with my wife, her bf and my step daughter visiting them next door, or the fact that everyone on the planet knew what was going on except me and no one valued me enough to say anything about it. No contact is really the best policy for these types of people, they aren't your friends if they betray your trust and boundaries. Just make sure to eat and sleep and take everything one day at a time. Hollar here if you need to vent or write it down at home, just don't contact any of them, it will only hurt you more.
Kendal Pierce Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 This is the worst thing that a man can experience. It is easy to get over with your ex if he went to another guy, but it's totally different if your ex left you over your best friend. The gravity of pain is just the same for both men and women. And getting through this would be difficult and painstaking one. I commend you for it. Just think to yourself that your ex friend and your ex girlfriend are meant for each other? Why? You have a friend who is a traitor on you and you had an ex girlfriend who never deserved you in the first place. If I were you, you should find a reason to pity them because I know their being together will not be forever. It will be short-lived, I know.
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 Just think to yourself that your ex friend and your ex girlfriend are meant for each other? Why? You have a friend who is a traitor on you and you had an ex girlfriend who never deserved you in the first place. If I were you, you should find a reason to pity them because I know their being together will not be forever. It will be short-lived, I know. Good words of advice, I thought along those same lines when I figured out the truth about my ex and my "best friend". I couldn't tell you whether or not they are official or if they are still together or not but there is no doubt in my mind that the relationship will be short. These actions just show the true value of your "friend" and your ex.
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