Blcomeau Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 To recap from my last post: My husband of 7 years left me 6 months pregnant and with our two other young children for a girl who also was pregnant and has 2 other kids. I felt thrown away and lost because of how I felt replaced. Its been a long and sad 3 months. So over the months I've been hanging onto anything that even remotely sounded like he might be unhappy or on his way back to me. False hopes are a real double edged sword, I tell you what. I've done it all, no contact, limited contact, sad texting, cry calling, playing it cool and everything. A few weeks ago I learned that my husband had signed up for an online dating site and had a PG 13 picture uploaded. With my false hopes I took it as him and his gf were not doing so great and it felt a little like vindication as I had a bf as well and was starting to pick up the pieces of myself and get on to some happiness. Then a few days ago we were texting and I asked him about the suggestive pic he posted and he told me how his gf had left while he was at work and went back to her children's father. That was a liitle surprising (though I always hoped he'd get his for what he did to me). But I did feel for him since he did seem hurt by it all. Here he left me, doesn't get to see our kids everyday, half his paychecks go for child support, moved in with a friend though he's a grown man, all for some tail that ended up doing to him what he did to me. I am now getting back on my feet, I have a vehicle, my own place and a little cash and am feeling a little more like I can breathe again. He hasn't said he wants to come back though he did ask about my new boyfriend, which makes me wonder if regret is setting in and maybe my grasses are looking greener than before... Yet I'm just afraid that it might be more false hopes again but he did say "everything will turn out ok" argh... I think I'm getting my hopes up again but damn, I just want my family back, already....
LifesontheUp Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 I'm not being funny but you are getting back on your feet and just cause he split with his gf you are hoping to get back with your husband? Why would you want to do that after all that he has done? Think long and hard about it.
andyg99 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 Sorry to be blunt here but it sounds like you just had a baby and somehow you found the time to find a boyfriend? Did I mix up the timeline? Why was looking after your happiness (getting a BF) more important than looking after 3 young kids? How does the boyfriend feel about you wanting your ex back? Again I'm sorry if I misunderstand but maybe you need to re-think your priorities....
Author Blcomeau Posted September 2, 2011 Author Posted September 2, 2011 Well I still love him but its not like if he said "ok I'm back" that I would just welcome him back with wide open arms and it would all go back to the way it was. I want him to show me that I am the one he wants, that he realizes its not all me and that things are going to have to change since this new house I got on my own and he will not run this into the ditch like last time. And if he won't do that then I will know where I stand and he can remain single. But you do pose an interesting question.... Would I be lowering myself if I did take him back at all? I don't want to be his sliver trophy.... So would I be then?
Author Blcomeau Posted September 2, 2011 Author Posted September 2, 2011 And I haven't had the baby yet but soon this month. He's not much of a bf probably more a rebound if anything and he lives an hour away now, we haven't physically seen each other in 2 weeks or more and hasn't met my kids yet. This is why I'm confused, do I wait and see what happens with my husband or am I just ruining everything across the board?
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