meanttolive4ever Posted May 6, 2004 Posted May 6, 2004 Me 'n' my ex broke up back in Feb. We were together for like 10 1/2 months. I treated him like gold. Ok, when we broke up he used the excuse that he "fell" out of love, and felt like we were better off friends (which i think he's lying). Anyway, he asked if it was official, after HE was the one who was breaking up with me. After i said no, that it wasn't official. He was like, "That's not fair," and started to make a big scene out of it. So, I leave there boyfriend-less. Well, he kept calling me, but i would never pick up the phone since my mom said not to. I wanted him to miss me. Then, 2 weeks later, he's with this high school chick. She's 16 and he's going on 20. They break up, and he tries to go with another girl. They break up, and the high school girl is back with him. They've been back togther for about a month, but he would call me when she was at school because he was "bored." When we broke up, he did say that in the future there was a definite possiblity that we would get back together. I just don't know when. Every time he's around me he flirts with me. I called him the other day, and asked him why he hadn't called me. He said he was busy (actually my mom had called like 2 weeks earlier and told him to quit calling me). He just sounded like he was either down or that he was mad. But, I told him to call me and he said ok. So, I'm just waiting to see if he'll call. But this girl, I hate her. She's lying about sleeping with him, and she was in a car with two other guys. He even asked her if she was saying all that stuff and she said no ... and he believed her! I love him so much and i would do anything for him. Should I just let him get all of this out of his system or what?
Sarah12385 Posted May 6, 2004 Posted May 6, 2004 haha wow sounds like me and my ex, minus the high school girl. he's a player it seems, lose him! you're wasting your time with him while you could be out lookin for someone better chica tell him to get over himself cause you're out! ~Sarah~
Author meanttolive4ever Posted May 6, 2004 Author Posted May 6, 2004 hmm i uno...someone called here from an unknown number hmmm wonder who it is
Author meanttolive4ever Posted May 7, 2004 Author Posted May 7, 2004 gosh i miss him so much...i swear i heard him say "i miss you" last night...i heard it in the back of my head...and it was his voice...i could recognize it from anywhere
Author meanttolive4ever Posted May 7, 2004 Author Posted May 7, 2004 i never realized how bad my grammar was lol. Man, i think i need to go back to school.
calithin83 Posted May 7, 2004 Posted May 7, 2004 hes keeping you on hold, do u really want him back? would he want u back if u did this to him, dont mope around and wait on him, for now do ure own thing , cos uire proably missing out on meeting other guys cos ure stillw aiting up on him, screw that... girl move on with ure life and stop waiting, dont go for what he sais..go with what his actions say..his actions r...HES NOT WITH U!!! and what he sais is just bull**** to keep u waiting and YOU to not date other guys, dont fall into the trap!
Author meanttolive4ever Posted May 7, 2004 Author Posted May 7, 2004 Originally posted by calithin83 hes keeping you on hold, do u really want him back? would he want u back if u did this to him, dont mope around and wait on him, for now do ure own thing , cos uire proably missing out on meeting other guys cos ure stillw aiting up on him, screw that... girl move on with ure life and stop waiting, dont go for what he sais..go with what his actions say..his actions r...HES NOT WITH U!!! and what he sais is just bull**** to keep u waiting and YOU to not date other guys, dont fall into the trap! we've done this before....broke up then got back the next day...well he did say when we talked in ims "dont push the fact that we're not together" and i was like what does that mean..he was like "I know how much you think this sucks" hmm
calithin83 Posted May 7, 2004 Posted May 7, 2004 do u want to keep this cycle of breaking up and getting back???i did that with my bf alot too but now im sick of it...cos he thinks he can break my heart and then have sex with me and make things ok again..its a stupid cycle that eventually leads to a real breakup..cos either u or him will get sick of it...and i hope its u who gets sick of it...for example IM NOW SICK OF IT...even though i did love him alot..cos i cant even say i love him anymore..cos i doubt i do after all the **** and lies...so just screw that ****, dont put ure life in hold and show him ure worth someothing, dont keep going back to someoen who has u like a pulley..push and pull..ure not no yo yo, but as long as ure ok with it and let him be the one holding on to the string u will keep being that YO YO!,,,take care,.,.BE STRONG DAMMIT...:)take care!
aurora19 Posted May 7, 2004 Posted May 7, 2004 oh sweetheart, you are so young, this will not be the last time you go through things like this and not the worst of things! in a of couple years you either won't even remember it or you'll laugh about it with your girlfriends. enjoy being young, enjoy life being UN complicated (it gets hard later on believe me). focus on your future goals and dreams, the right guy will come at the right time. don't waste your time on a 20 year doofus! he doesn't realize what he wants and he won't be able to appreciate you till his 30!
Author meanttolive4ever Posted May 7, 2004 Author Posted May 7, 2004 Originally posted by aurora19 oh sweetheart, you are so young, this will not be the last time you go through things like this and not the worst of things! in a of couple years you either won't even remember it or you'll laugh about it with your girlfriends. enjoy being young, enjoy life being UN complicated (it gets hard later on believe me). focus on your future goals and dreams, the right guy will come at the right time. don't waste your time on a 20 year doofus! he doesn't realize what he wants and he won't be able to appreciate you till his 30! i know but i sort of had this kind of a relationship before he came along. Cept he went to the army and i never heard from him again and i hate him to this day..but with the guy i just recently broke up with, he's so much more than that...he's the love of my life and ive never felt this way towards anyone else. I'm beginning to think that this is it...everytime something happens between us i get a good feeling from my gut...im just gonna sit n wait...well not wait but you know what i mean. it may take 4 days or it may take 4 months who knows. Like i have said earlier..noone will be able to take my place and noone will be able to treat him like i did and take care of him.
calithin83 Posted May 7, 2004 Posted May 7, 2004 well i wish u best of luck, i just really think that by waiting ure going to fail, i think the best way is to just focus on ure life and not on him anymore, if he comes in the future dont be so easy to let him back in..maybe u guys r meant but the only way to know is BY YOU going on with ure life..for now!.... obviously u think hes the one, cos all the memories and stuff...but also cos ure in love.....but either way dont put ure life on hold for him, cos then if he never comes back ure gonna feel like **** knowing u waited for nothing.... best advice i can give u is...whenever u think of him- do something- 1. go to gym 2. watch a funny movie 3. read a good book 4. study 5. go out with fun friends who r single 6. buy yourself stuff 7. do everything u didnt do cos u were taken...hmm... 8. just remind ureself u dont need a man to be happy 9. pray anyways to me...i dont care anymore about my ex and i never tbhought that would happen, but i guess it happens:)
Author meanttolive4ever Posted May 7, 2004 Author Posted May 7, 2004 Originally posted by calithin83 well i wish u best of luck, i just really think that by waiting ure going to fail, i think the best way is to just focus on ure life and not on him anymore, if he comes in the future dont be so easy to let him back in..maybe u guys r meant but the only way to know is BY YOU going on with ure life..for now!.... obviously u think hes the one, cos all the memories and stuff...but also cos ure in love.....but either way dont put ure life on hold for him, cos then if he never comes back ure gonna feel like **** knowing u waited for nothing.... best advice i can give u is...whenever u think of him- do something- 1. go to gym 2. watch a funny movie 3. read a good book 4. study 5. go out with fun friends who r single 6. buy yourself stuff 7. do everything u didnt do cos u were taken...hmm... 8. just remind ureself u dont need a man to be happy 9. pray anyways to me...i dont care anymore about my ex and i never tbhought that would happen, but i guess it happens:) im happy to see u start seeing it through my eyes. i know he is the one...i swear.i just have that feeling. i do a lot of stuff to get my mind off of him its just certain times that i hear songs and at night i miss him calling me n stuff. its just hard. i really should start praying..i used to it all the time and now i dont. so maybe i should start againl.
2ndConfusedfemale Posted May 10, 2004 Posted May 10, 2004 Don't "wait." I know what you are going through, but I don't think that you should put your life on hold for anyone. You need to set a date, and if yall are not together by that date, "let go" of him. When I say let go I mean, release yourself emotionally from him. You can still leave the door open for him to return, but don't close the door on others. And if you don't want to be with anyone else (I know the feeling), then be alone for a while, and think of what you are going to do if he just isn't coming back. Also remember that as long as he knows that he can come back to you WHENEVER HE WANTS, he will be slower to come back to you. You are giving him the security he needs to stay away. He can be with the high school chick, and whomever else he wants, and then come back to you when he feels like it, because that is basically what you are telling him. If it really is meant to be you can go out with other guys, and not be miserable waiting for his phone call because at the end of the day you two will be together.
Author meanttolive4ever Posted May 10, 2004 Author Posted May 10, 2004 i just cant see myself dating anyone else
Author meanttolive4ever Posted July 8, 2004 Author Posted July 8, 2004 ok..so its been a few months since i last wrote on here...nothing really new has happened except that i have tried dating..it just doesnt feel the same. I have yet to hear from him and its been about 2 months. I miss him all the time and i even had a few freaky dreams last night. i give up.
Author meanttolive4ever Posted September 19, 2004 Author Posted September 19, 2004 wow its been a really long time...im finally over him and ive already moved on. and its been almost 7 months since the split , go me!
Author meanttolive4ever Posted January 18, 2006 Author Posted January 18, 2006 wow....its been about 2 years since ive replied here....i finally moved on from him about july of 2004...and ive been with the most awesomest boyfriend anyone could have imagined. hes way better than that guy i talked to you all about earlier. we've been together for almost 2 years now...thank you you guys for showing me the light ;]
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